And one day, you will wake up and find that your heart aches less. And each day will get better. But you have to work at it otherwise you will just keep hurting. I know it doesn't help- but just about everyone has gone through this in their life--and sooner or later it gets better- and you feel you learned something from it. Meanwhile- just don't let your brain and heart work together to bring you down. Get busy--and eventually you will forget about the pain- and find someone else.
I don't know anything about your gf, but I know when I went through major surgery I pushed a lot of people away. My thought process on it was that I didn't want to cause them pain to have to see and deal with me when I had to go through with it all. Which is pretty stupid, but that was the idea I had. Maybe she could be in that mind frame, so giving her some time can help. After the ordeal is over things can go back to how it was before.
I know how you feel. It seems like this feeling will never go away and you cannot imagine yourself with someone else...what a bleak, depressing and dangerous feeling.
But please remember there is hope.
I know it's an old cliche but time really does heal...when I left my husband after 16 yrs. I was a mess. I missed my "old life" so much and I truly felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for about 1.5 years. It was an amazing relationship full of love, communication, and mutual respect and support. We ended up splitting because of some issues related to his kids (whom I never met, because they were not open to meeting someone new, as their parents were newly divorced).
Girlfriend out of the blue decides a 4 day break would do us some good as we havent been able to see much of each other lately(which will change in a week,) so we just been texting really instead. she said she needs a break from it will us good,
what do you make of that.. is it likely to be over so theres more than im being told?
Hi there, So, you are having a baby with him, is that right? Are you both teenagers? Lots of big things coming your way very soon. Are you living with his parents too or are you are with yours and he's with his? Sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to understand.
Do you have any support from your own family?
On the surface, I think it is smart to expect certain things out of the father of our children.
t keep them in a box in your closet because then they will always be there. You need to rid yourself of the relationship to move on. Just keep your head up and tell yourself you are so worth better. I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I hope you take care of yourself.
Being attracted to other people is not something to break up over. Have you never looked at another guy while in a relationship? The point is that he's not acting on these things. I know one thing that helps my husband I is talking about our fantisies or attractions. The hubs has a weird thing for redheads so once in a while I'll buy a box of washout hair dye to surprise him. The point is give him some slack he's normal, it doesn't mean he's cheating or will cheat.
Let me just say this. It is okay to leave a relationship. It is not wise to start a new relationship before leaving. Here is the problem (besides the moral issues which are huge)-------- your new guy knows you are a cheater. He will never fully trust you. Also, moving from one relationship to the next as you seem to want to do is statistically relationship suicide. You would be shocked at their failure rate . . . or maybe that doesn't matter to you. I don't know.
Welcome Ryan....if your looking to quit this freakin merry-go-round, you've come to the right place. I understand you cant go to a dr b/c it will be on your record and in your medical records, but this can be done at home.
Can you take some time off from work....say 6/7 days? I say this b/c im sure you dont want anyone to think anything at work. Can u enlist a parent, sibling, friend to help u? First thing, find the Thomas Taper on this website and get the items listed...
t bear to break his heart and do what? Send him back home? What if I make a mistake? If I was to break up with him.. how the hell would I do this? It's scary to think about... but if it's not going to work in the long run, isn't waiting going to make it even worse for him? Sometimes I just want freedom to explore any other options, like meeting someone in my area who has all the qualities I want in someone.
But then I think about how loved I am..
The extent of the relationship can cause a break up to be short and sweet. And some people have a hard time dealing with other people's emotions and just break it off abruptly and quickly to deal with as little of that as possible.
Going through a difficult time is a test to a relationship. Very many will NOT survive a tough time. Not all relationships are meant to last and we date to learn these things about people. Maybe if someone is very emotional, depressed, etc.
Hi, the way you describe your relationship, i dont see why being separated would negatively affect your love and wanting to be with eachother. I sense your a bit insecure in her being away from you.
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