So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
Being attracted to other people is not something to break up over. Have you never looked at another guy while in a relationship? The point is that he's not acting on these things. I know one thing that helps my husband I is talking about our fantisies or attractions. The hubs has a weird thing for redheads so once in a while I'll buy a box of washout hair dye to surprise him. The point is give him some slack he's normal, it doesn't mean he's cheating or will cheat.
I think people do respond differently---------- and I also think this is inidicative of where she views your relationship. Not saying this is a bad thing-------- you were in a fairly new relationship. I see relationships kind of like on tiers or steps. Those you are closest to----------- like your parents, maybe one friend, and eventually your spouse----- those top relationships sit on the top. And it moves down from there.
Well I am entering my first year in college and my girlfriend is doing the same thing. We are going to schools 6 hours apart and she is playing a sport there. We've been dating for 5 months but we've been best friends forever. I know everything about her as she does of me, we have actual life conversations and stuff. It's not like a normal highschool relationship. When we agreed to start dating, I was adamant on no long distance relationship.
People are not good partners usually so soon after a relationship. And very often, they do not end up long term with their rebound relationship person. I really can't explain why other than to say that they get with someone quickly without doing as much work as usual in picking them (no offense to you), they still have hang ups and baggage from the divorce, etc. and it just often doesn't work.
Last, he is going out with someone else.
It could be any number of reasons - it would help you explain what your relationship is like in more detail first. Has something happened that would make her want this break? Anything, like a loss of interest in this relationship, due to not having much time together lately, that may be the cause. Perhaps she feels it's not completely working out? You need to make more time for her if you want to keep her interested....??
If you talked for months about the future of your relationship with someone, and then it ends unexpectedly after a fight, and "no contact" is in place immediately after the fight by your ex being unresponsive (It's been about 20 days since the initial night of the fight), is it likely at all for communication to happen again? (The response choices I used are based off general statements I've heard people give to others in this situation).
Yeah I ve never done the friends part bc its so painful,I hear the reason why some women do it it is bc they have not let go yet
When someone tells you not to think about something, what do you do? You think about it! It's human nature. Telling yourself not to do something immediately puts pressure on you, setting you up for guilt if you break your own "rules."
Bottom line: it is OKAY to look at, talk to, be friends with, hang out with, and even be attracted to other guys while you are in a relationship. You can't help it. It's human. It's natural.
My bd did the same....he let his friends influence him and we ended up breaking up...he said he would never go to outside help but for some reason re broke that trust and it eventually broke us up...I was torn like you and still is kind of...because I do want that family for my daughter :/.....it ***** but just show him that.you can live without him and be just as happy!!! Don't show him your weak side and I agree with the other ladies...if it isn't about The baby don't talk to him..
That can add a lot of new stress to a relationship; not that you two intended to complicate your lives and relationship more, but you have. What both of you are going through, is basically the 'growing up' process. You both are getting older, taking on more responsibilities, and your relationship is changing. You two can either grow together and learn how to cope with the changes happening in your relationship, or both of you can choose to go your separate ways.
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