I don't know anything about your gf, but I know when I went through major surgery I pushed a lot of people away. My thought process on it was that I didn't want to cause them pain to have to see and deal with me when I had to go through with it all. Which is pretty stupid, but that was the idea I had. Maybe she could be in that mind frame, so giving her some time can help. After the ordeal is over things can go back to how it was before.
Ugh. You are playing with fire. He has a flirtatious, deep (emotionally) relationship with you while he has a girlfriend. That indicates to me that he is not ready to be "anyone's" boyfriend, including yours. I know he is probably a great guy and you've got feelings for him. But my suggestion to you is to let this be for now. I'd bad off and not in an angry way but in a smart girl way and see what happens with him and his girlfriend.
t bear to break his heart and do what? Send him back home? What if I make a mistake? If I was to break up with him.. how the hell would I do this? It's scary to think about... but if it's not going to work in the long run, isn't waiting going to make it even worse for him? Sometimes I just want freedom to explore any other options, like meeting someone in my area who has all the qualities I want in someone.
But then I think about how loved I am..
Ok, a little back ground.
My boyfriend and I were told (early in our relationship) that it would be.difficult for us to conceive. (Him: low sperm count and twisted cords) (me: tilted uterus, blockages in fallopian tubes, and very irregular cycles) so we made the choice that no birth control would be fine. It worked, 4 years later, we.
I have messed up truely!! My boyfriend of two and a half years which is completely Amazin! We have had our hic ups ..but when we broke up 7 months ago I did the dumbest thing ever I had sex with his friend! I didn't even like this Guy! And even thought my boyfriend asked me to marry him(of corse I said yes) he knew what had
happened we agreed that it would be a long road to repair the damage done. We seem to be stuck now,I try and reach out to him and he just shuts down!
During those 3 months he has had a lot of ups and down. When we met he and his current girlfriend had split and we engaged in oral sex. He then told me he was going to try to work things out with his ex and I understood. Long story short he got kicked out of his apartment and is now living with his girlfriend, last week he started sending me sexually explicity texts and I told him he can't do that because he has a girlfriend, he told me he can keep a secret.
The girlfriend poisoned him as she was evil and did it because he wanted to break up. She made it look like an OD on prescription pills. His mom believed that. Case closed.
He had told me that last talk we had that he was afraid to break up with her and I asked him why he goes "she's crazy man" I thought it was odd to hear him saying that because he would break up with girls and think nothing of it.
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
I know how you feel. It seems like this feeling will never go away and you cannot imagine yourself with someone else...what a bleak, depressing and dangerous feeling.
But please remember there is hope.
I know it's an old cliche but time really does heal...when I left my husband after 16 yrs. I was a mess. I missed my "old life" so much and I truly felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
From sneakers to stilltoes, from baggy jeans to hot pants and cocktail dresses, from natural look to make up to body lotion, hair moisturiser, nail polish, skin exfoliator even my hair colour, and body size. I thought at the beginning that i was doing this change for myself, turns out its for him. Even my character changed. I was the roudy rough headsteong never backed down girl. Now im the vulnerable weak sensitive low esteemed pathetic girl i am. I realize this and im adapting to it.
Time to break up and move on. He apparently hasn't so there's no use in putting yourself through some pain that may happen at some point down the line. Short and sweet answer - trust me, I've been through it.
Another good way to work through these kinds of things is to try to reverse the situation and consider how YOU would feel if your husband was venting to a woman friend about your marriage. Especially one that may or may not be a bit flirtatious with him. I'm willing to bet you wouldn't be too comfortable with that, and may even be resentful of them both.
Hope that helps, good luck to you!
I'm 17, my last year in high school. Turning 18 next week, and Im 8 weeks. I didn't even know I was pregnant. I told my mom I was pregnant and now I need to tell my dad. But how??? My dad means the world to me and I'm scared to break his heart :( .. I'm due in may and I'm supposed to walk with ny class in June, will I be able to walk?? My mom was there for me b/cause she got pregnant with me at the age of 14. But why wouldn't my dad understand??
She acts polite to your girlfriend and you and only is honest about how she feels deep inside when you push her.
That is different than the situations you hear of when a child is being rude or obnoxious about things. She just has feelings which is okay for her to have. The giving into her part is kind of unkind on your part when she wasn't demanding anything but simply expressing her feelings.
She has some insecurities.
For one thing, your girlfriend might change her mind and come clean with him. For another, they might break up and she will tell him then. Finally, he has a lot of time to wonder if the baby is his and to ponder why she insisted on a drugstore test. His buddies will also be after him to insist on a reliable DNA test. He might figure it out by himself.
Your boyfriend needs to let his mother know that you are his future and he,yourself, your daughter, and your other kids are a family...... If she can not accept you than I would not let my kids go either.... And if its because of how you feel about your mother let her know how much your grandmother who "was" your mother means to you.... I wish you all the luck and talk to your boyfriend he needs to handle the situation...
So, he told me to leave him at Best Buy and he would call someone to pick him up. I went to the car and waited for him to come to his senses and come outside. When he did, an argument ensued. We fought the whole was home about how I am a "*****" about certain things in my life. I started to cry and he told me to be stronger and toughen up. Things escalated over this pointless argument. Eventually he made a comment about how I have herpes due to an ex boyfriend.
If someone gets upset that is your friend that you pronounce love for and ask to go straight to girlfriend status---- well, they might get upset because it is changing the dynamics of the relationship. They may not be interested in dating and now know the friendship will never be the same. They may feel played like you wanted to 'be with them' all along and pretended to just want friendship in the beginning.
Hello there! I am still taking each day as it comes but help!
When i asked her about why she lied, she told me that she never thought I would give her a chance when i first found out she had sex with someone else in such a short period after our break up, and that she wanted to keep him as a friend in case I never got back with her...and the reason why 2 months later he was still in her contacts was because she eventually forgot that she still had him as a contact. I do know that she has not talked to him eversince we started dating again.
m in a relationship with a girl for 5 years and a half and recently she decided to take a break because she could not cope with depression and felt somewhat trapped in this relationship and felt that she can not be loved in the state in which she is now, and wanted a break to sort her problems. only .....
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