The quickest way to get over a break up is to make sure you have zero contact with that individual. That means, no looking at their photos, reading their letters/emails/texts that you've saved, no trips down memory lane of all the fond memories you shared. Do you best to avoid that person and not run into them or be at places you know they are going to be. Once you've done that, start spending time with friends, or make new ones. Get yourself out there and start dating casually.
I completely agree with specialmom. You aren't ready for a real relationship. My boyfriend and I know exactly where the other one is and what they're doing and who their with. It's not that we control each other, but it's out of respect. But if I found out that he was lying to be about ANYTHING, even something little, I wouldn't trust him as much anymore. You can't lie in a relationship, unless you really don't care what happens.
I'm sorry you are lonely and the holidays tend to make that worse. You broke up. Hm. Why? Just work schedules? That doesn't sound like much of an excuse to be honest.
Do you think he started dating her while still with you? Or possibly someone else? I wonder as he is doing things behind his current girlfriend's back, could he have done that to you?
Anyway, you can not make someone leave their girlfriend. If he desires to do so he can and will.
i still have some haunting thoughts but heres my real problem i was offered sex with my ex girlfriend which i never had the oportunity to have sex with her, and i would really like to but my thoughts are soo f'd up i think im afraid to do her i know she is gotta be clean and anyway id use a condom.
Believe it or not, my ex hubby and I are the best of friends and I could not ever go BACK to him. There was a time when I could've but I didn't want to.
At this time I am mourning another relationship that went bad and my ex hubby is one of my biggest supporters. I am hurting and I understand the obsessive thinking and the sleepless nights along with the constant crying.
Is it wrong to think this? Or am I over reacting :(
My husband has a daughter to a previous girlfriend that wasn't serious, he isn't on the birth certificate and he hasn't seen her over a year and a half. I wanted to be involved in her life because she is only a child and never asked to come into this world. His ex girlfriend wasn't happy about that so he hasn't spoken to her in a long time.
I agree with Teko, he is NOT the one! If he were, the feelings you have for him would be reciprocated. He would love and cherish you and there wouldn't be a new girlfriend in the picture, or even thoughts of another woman. He treated you badly and said some pretty harsh things, which definitely hurts but it's also a blessing in disguise although you may not feel that way right this minute.
ll leave her and she would have no were to go so she would try to get back with my boyfriend and try to break us up she even went as far as saying I was cheating on my boyfriend when I was at home with the kids 24/7 didn't have a phone and my boyfriend was using my car to go back and forth to work to because his truck broke down,, wish I could say it gets better but it's been two years and seems like it just keeps getting worse
I don't know anything about your gf, but I know when I went through major surgery I pushed a lot of people away. My thought process on it was that I didn't want to cause them pain to have to see and deal with me when I had to go through with it all. Which is pretty stupid, but that was the idea I had. Maybe she could be in that mind frame, so giving her some time can help. After the ordeal is over things can go back to how it was before.
Thinking of leaving your boyfriend but being hesitant because you know your ex can be with his girlfriend, suggests your boyfriend is more your comfort zone or safety back-up against being alone, than that you really love him in particular. You should be with your present boyfriend if he is wonderful and more than enough, or you should let him go to find someone who feels that way about him.
I went through a similar situation with my ex boyfriend. We ended up back together but I broke up with him two years later because the new girlfriend he met while we was separated came back into the picture and he began cheating. But If u love him, take it slow but I would see where things could go. You never no, he may fall in love with the new baby and become daddy.! Good luck!
Well, for starts, tell your "friend" to STOP meeting this boy for sex because it does sound like he is USING her for sex. I think the ex bf is just flat out lying about not using your "friend" for sex. Plus, he has already made it CLEAR he is not interested in getting back together.
Tell her to be done with him and move on.
How old are they?
I had a really hard10 years relation break-up a 7 months ago, my ex gf dumped me like trash... I got some professional help to get up again, now I have a new girlfriend who is really comprehensive with me and this situation, I've known her since 3 years ago so she knows all that I've been through. We've been together as a couple for 5 months now... Everything is really really good but the sex... She is OK but me on the other hand don't know what to do...
If someone gets upset that is your friend that you pronounce love for and ask to go straight to girlfriend status---- well, they might get upset because it is changing the dynamics of the relationship. They may not be interested in dating and now know the friendship will never be the same. They may feel played like you wanted to 'be with them' all along and pretended to just want friendship in the beginning.
I know its stupid but it is what happened. So i was talking to her and trying to get her worked up. It basically turned into cyber sex. In the middle of it though it hit me. What was I doing? So i stopped the conversation and told the girl i dont want to talk anymore. I went straight to my girlfriends house and told her what had happend. She first said that it was ok. but later that night she told me how upset she was.
From what I reading she not the only one jealous sorry if I putting it like that he have a baby from you and you and him break up now he have another girl pregnant well you just have to get over that I don't think he will over look your child if it his
The way to overcome insecurity is from within and the things we do to enhance ourselves. So keep on top of those things and your relationship will continue to grow and the ex girlfriend will fade further and further away.
But join in some things and be open to meeting some friends. Your confidence is probably low due to the break up (often that is something that happens)----- but know that others will like you and give them a chance to know you.
Start exercising. It helps the mind, body and soul. Call family. Plant a garden------ just stay active and discover who you are without him. You were together a pretty long time and this is your opportunity to rediscover you.
Thanks a lot for your input - I really appreciate it.
She hadn't experienced the "emptiness" feeling for quite some time because of her treatment until it was trigged by her moving. But if there's more of those in store for me down the line if we get back together, I can see that it will be a very bumpy ride.
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