broke up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. she has had a physical ailment for 20 months and finally had surgery about 3 months ago.she says a relatinship is something that she doesnt want or cant handle right now.she says she still loves me, thinks about me and misses me. just wondering what all of this means and what is the best thing for myself.i still love her dearly and we are still in communication fairly frequently and know she is not into anyone else or anything like that.
My girlfriend of 4 months has had herpes for 7 years, with her only outbreak occurring when she was diagnosed at the age of 15. We've had unprotected sex and I've tested negative for HSV 2 twice, but I no longer want to risk getting herpes myself and I think I'm going to break up with her. I know I'd be losing a great girl, but I do NOT want to have herpes for the rest of my life.
My question is since she's only had 1 outbreak in her life, is she still contagious?
before we had sex i asked my girlfriend to get tested. It was 11 weeks since she had had any possible exposure. We still have been practicing safe sex but last weekend after marathon sex. I noticed that the condom was broken and probably had been for a while. I went to my Dr and he said I was still at high risk because she hadn't been tested at 6 months. On these forums i see alot of shorter window periods. Can anyone give me some peace of mind and tell me if her 11 week test is enough time?
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
t know if this is the case with your girlfriend as there are other complexities in her life, like... unresolved issues with the ex. She could be as conflicted about severing the ties with the ex as she is with her feelings for you. If that's the case, she's neither ready to move on in her life... nor is she ready for you.
Today I feel much better than yesterday, I had a talk with my girlfriend and we talked about the recent condom break and she told me that it does not even worry her in least because the condom broke in the thighs before reaching her vagina. So now here is the situation when were having sex, she was laying on her tummy, meaning I was on top of her from the back.
No doubt it's tough to be in a relationship with someone who is suffering from a significant depression.
I think all you can do at this point is express to her that you're there for her 100% and that her illness is in no way any kind of burden on you, that you'd prefer to be there for her and stay together, but if she's got her mind made up, that you understand and respect her wishes.
After reading this wonderful forum I know that my exposure was little if no risk, and that my anxiety is a reaction to the shame I feel. I have had sex with my girlfriend 3 times after what happened, all protected. Next week I´m having a combined hiv test that searches for both the virus and antibodies. I need this to reassure myself and move on. I haven´t had any symptoms other than my anxiety and shame.
1. Would you get tested at all in my situation? Is a test at 6 weeks all I need?
my girlfriend broke up with, she said she has no time for me and her parents are fitting a lot.she said patrick im really i am sorry this has to happen but i dont want it too happen this way, but theres a lot of stuff going on at home that i have to deal with. she said patrick i love you a lot i really do, i said to her i love you a lot to amanda, I said amanda im her any time if you need someone to talk too.
Your English is quite good! As for what you can do to help your girlfriend, you are right in your assmption that it is her who has to make the steps toward healthiness. Eating disorders are often about control, and it's a fine line between what is meant to be help, and what she might see as interference or attempts to control her. What you can do is be supportive. Of let her how much you care and how much you admire her (for everything, not just looks).
Well a guy i was with for about a 1 1/2 years, basically didn't even tell me he wanted to break up. He just moved on and started another relationship with someone else. I didn't find out about this for a month, so when i confronted him about it, the other girl was there and SHE was the one who basically broke it off with me, instead of him. He just stood there nodding the whole time and then just gave me a muddled sorry.
This is a Disease and it can take everything from you and even your Life. You have to change your whole world around you. No more playing with the same friends or going to those places..These are called triggers.This Journey into Recovery can not be walked alone..YOU need Support! Get on the Net and do all the research you can about this "Disease of Addiction"..This will not cure you, but it will give you some insite on what goes on in the Brain.
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The psychologist advices her to break up with me (which is why she have been having thoughts about it), because she believes that she needs to focus on herself only, and i think that it is somewhat true. She is using to much energi on thinking about this relationship instead of just enjoying it. I know that you can't love anyone until you learn to love yourself.
I'm just relatively sure, that if we break up, she will get ALOT worse, because then she will be completely alone.
I agree with Londres. This is not a good situation. First the old adage "you don't sh*t where you eat" applies here. If this goes bad, you're stuck seeing this man all the time. Believe me, I've been in your exact shoes with a co-worker of mine years ago. I didn't know about his girlfriend until after we had already been dating for a bit. They were supposedly broken up but then got back to together while him and I were talking.
Hi there, So, you are having a baby with him, is that right? Are you both teenagers? Lots of big things coming your way very soon. Are you living with his parents too or are you are with yours and he's with his? Sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to understand.
Do you have any support from your own family?
On the surface, I think it is smart to expect certain things out of the father of our children.
Get physically active and fill up your time with things that can make you happy. Do things that are different from the things you did with him. Make some new friends from a different group of people. Change your life in a positive direction and don't give yourself much time alone- even much time to think!! All you can do is distract yourself-- but the funny thing, is that the longer you do this, the better it works. And one day, you will wake up and find that your heart aches less.
I'm up due to working long shifts, I do miss my girlfriend when I'm here but this is the life of a Firefighter/EMT.
Ugh. You are playing with fire. He has a flirtatious, deep (emotionally) relationship with you while he has a girlfriend. That indicates to me that he is not ready to be "anyone's" boyfriend, including yours. I know he is probably a great guy and you've got feelings for him. But my suggestion to you is to let this be for now. I'd bad off and not in an angry way but in a smart girl way and see what happens with him and his girlfriend.
s pretty much how it is with porn or some form of prostitution. You did say you would feel better if it was your girlfriend. You should have stopped when you became aroused, because wouldn't you think: "I love my girl so much, and I want to work things out with her, I want to be with her and embrace her, not do such dirty or lustful things"
If it is something that is bothering you or would make your girlfriend hurt, it is simply wrong and shouldn't have been done.
it was perfect from both sides however due to deadlines I havent been round to much for a month but there over next week. then she just said pretty much sick of the texting, its just become forced, even when were out in public its not great cuz we dont have enough alone time whereas i didnt think any of the above.. then by text was given the "break" messge..
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