For that, see if you can find some assistance
in checking the cause of your stress or lowered pleasure
in life, and finding some coping mechanisms. In other words, not getting hard might just be an outflow of general other issues in life. It NEVER hurts to get help with general issues related to stress, anxiety or depression. It can be a huge comfort, in fact, just to have someone to talk to.
Another possibility is a low hormone flow for some other reason.