All of the above can be dealt with by a immediate, consistent reinforcement of
proper behavior. What throws all of
this off though is the possibility of ADHD
or an ADHD
/SIDS combination. It just makes things a lot tougher to deal with. But, if you know what you are dealing with - it makes it much easier to deal with it!
I do worry a bit about him holding on to his emotions. It sounds like anxiety. Which would be understandable at his age since his family has changed.