Fear of intimacy in men
Common Questions and Answers about Fear of intimacy in men
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It is hard for me to tell if you have a lot of fear, which potentially could be clouding the experience of excitement that is usually felt at the beginning of relationships, or if you actually just aren't into this guy. I usually try to go with a gut feeling, and if your gut feeling is saying that you aren't really into him, I would trust that.
But then, my next question for you would be: what are your fears with intimacy?
He may just be afraid of hurting the fetus. Most men don't understand our "inner anatomy". Educate him about where the baby is inside you and explain to him that he's not gonna be "bumping into" it.
It may have something to do with a past experience as well. I have a friend whose wife lost her baby two days after they had sex and he still blames himself.
Have you asked him directly?
There are so many reasons why a man may not be interested in having sex with you, but without his opening up and being honest, you'll never truly know why
1) Problems in the marriage. Did he and you have a falling out a year ago, when the sex with you stopped?
2) Does he have access to a computer, is there a possibility that he is watching porn? Some men are raised believing that it's okay to have relations with a sex trade worker.
I know how u feel because I have been having this problem my baby's father felt like he would be hurting her or me so he never wants to and it definitely makes you feel unwanted and almost like your doing something wrong.
there are a couple of health pages on this site that cover post acute withdrawal syndrome (or paws) you may want to check, as many in early sobriety have these and other issues that are believed to be a direct result of the process of recovering from chronic use of chemicals. i also highly recommend the use of al-anon in your area, as alcoholism causes disturbances with those in relationships with alcoholics.
Jim, good for you. You're a good man and honorable to your wife, which makes you an even bigger man. It sounds like tingress is thinking her boyfriend is not going to go that route, or that no matter what he promises, he will sneak back.
tingress, I would go for counseling with your bf. 8 months pregnant is no time to try to have emotional conversations -- the hormones of pregnancy are emotional enough!
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I know there is little hope for him to recover from his fear of intimacy, especially if he has no reason to want to change. By letting him live in our house and be a father to his children he's really not losing anything for his bad deeds. He's getting his kids, me as a friend and household partner, and hookers to have sex with. THis is so sad for me. Any insight you have would be appreciated.
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re old enough that that fear is no longer needed to keep you safe and is probably a hinderance, getting in the way of positive male relationships that you probably crave. you can move out of that stage of fear but you will need help to unravel and begin to understand where it came from. take care and best of luck. ps don't be discouraged if you don't like the first therapist you meet.
How old is your husband, and when was he diagnosed with "low T"? How "low" was his T?
People have to be VERY cautious. While low testosterone certainly CAN be an issue for some men, it's basically being used as a huge marketing ploy to push these newer meds, like the androgel.
You probably have a 20-30% chance of HPV if she has it. Less of chance if she had it in her past (over 2 years ago). You should politely inquire about her recent Pap test results and if she hasn't had one in a year, ask her to get one soon and to inform you of her results. HPV is a skin disease and can be passed via skin to skin contact (thigh, leg, anus, etc). Oral sex can pass it too and unless you were covered when receiving oral sex, you may have gotten it then.
Hello,
I'd like to get some input on a problem I've had in my 2.5 yr long relationship.
Of the 2.5 years, my boyfriend and I have been living together for 1.5 yrs. Throughout the course of the relationship, he has always shown a preference for oral sex, and our standard is oral for him, hand for me (sometimes with a little bit of oral for me). During my period and at other times as well, he gets freebies. Actual intercourse happens once every 2-3 months, always at my initiation.
I am a 26 year old gay male who is having problems ejaculating and/or orgasming during intimacy with a partner. I have a feeling it's an emotional issue as I was somewhat a late bloomer. I've only been sexually active for 4 years, and have relied heavily on masturbation to ejaculate in the past.
I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now and this is the first time I slept with another woman in this time. I am now avoiding intimacy with her until the test results come back at the 3 month mark. The mental/emotional stress is overwhelming and I fear weakening my immune system. Any professional advice/insight would be greatly appreciated.
But it can be justifiable and explained why someone has decided to have commitment to his love who is obviously only one of the people he have had intimacy and passion with.
Can we predict it and by preparing the required items - that we must derive from our relationship with our beloved one- be sure about it?
I second seeing a therapist, and perhaps finding the tools to repair the lost intimacy with your wife. It sounds like you feel very ashamed of yourself sexually to begin with, which can definitely make intimacy with another person difficult. Can you talk to your wife about your shyness and sensitivity?
I don't think you're alone. Many men feel unnerved by any criticism or suggestion that they're not a satisfying partner. Communication is the key to working through this - good luck!
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This is typically treated like phobias and anxiety conditions with the recommendation to work with a psychiatrist and counselor and perhaps incorporate medication. This, of course, would depend on the severity of your fear and how debilitating it is to your life. That is just general information for those who are reading this.
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i have never been in love. the idea of a relationship physically affects me. i hypervenatlate and feel like im trapped in a small box. im terrified. im 25 and for the first time since i was 18 i took a guy seriously. i slept with someone else when we were starting out. a close friends ex. i didnt tell barry. the new guy. i was in my mind dating him even thou it was long distance. as far as his texts and calls went he felt the same. i havnt talked to him in over 9 days.
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