Thanks for your comment. One day I thought if you can't beat them, join them, so I watched the shows with him and sure enough, these pre-teen shows like jake & josh, icarly, etc. the adults are portrayed as idiots and buffoons and the kids are in charge, that explained some of his behavior but not all of it. Just this morning he was late for school over a meltdown over what my wife prepared for lunch, everyday it's something, we are both very worn out.