ve done it. You can love someone while recognizing that a long term situation with them would be hard to make work. I walked away for that very reason after 4 years of dating someone. I realized that I would not ultimately have the relationship and life I wanted with the person I'd invested so much time with. It was really hard. I cried and cried and cried. I did love him. But I had to be realistic. I then dated a few different people for a couple of years and finally met my husband.
Well my girlfriend and I had been together for 2 years when it happened. We met online and had wonderful time together. I love her more than anything. Yet I can be stupid sometimes. We had initally broken up 6 months ago. She felt I wasnt motivated enough and felt as though she was in a rut. I changed myself because I wanted to be more motivated and I was. When she took me back we were happier than ever. Everything seriously was great.
I agree give her space but let her know that you are there for her when she is ready. The fact that she still openly communicates with you is a good sign. She hasn't shut you put completely. Give her time to heal and I'm sure she will appreciate you for that.
So im 15 & I dont wanna break up with this guy ive beeen with for nine months but I want a break whats a nice way to tell him?
It seems like this feeling will never go away and you cannot imagine yourself with someone else...what a bleak, depressing and dangerous feeling.
But please remember there is hope.
I know it's an old cliche but time really does heal...when I left my husband after 16 yrs. I was a mess. I missed my "old life" so much and I truly felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
I agree with specialmom, just because he was bad for you doesn't mean you will just get over it. He is a routine for you. At some point he was your best friend. You called him when something happened, you called him probably all throughout the day so you have to just get out of that routine of wanting to talk to him. When I went through a major breakup I would find solace in the gym. I used to work out like crazy.
I know how you feel. I broke up with my boyfriend last week because the way he was treating me was disgraceful. Apparently it was all my fault though because I'm pregnant and I'm a "drama queen". But mine wasn't just other girls...he ended up treating me like he hated me, and treated other girls ("friends") better than he treated me...he wouldn't even go in public with me because he was embarrassed that I'm pregnant and "fat".
Semi-serious question - definitely a social one...
Have you noticed how when you find someone who you love/fall in love with/ Reeeeally like suddenly their little flaws doesn't bother you?
As some of you know I am just like Ross and Rachel - on a break - but I notice when I talk to others that they point out things that would annoy them in my ex... little things.. bigger things...
I am 20 years old and have a boyfriend of 4 years who has a little girl. I also have a best friend who is also an ex and says he still loves me. We broke up when we were younger because he had to move. Now I love my current boyfriend but I'm afraid our relationship in not changing. What I mean by this ishis mother an ex call the shots. His mother always tries to control us and wants us to do everything she says of course I say nothing cuz his daughter is not mine.
I hear what you are saying----------- but the thing is you ARE feeling lots of stress over this. What I'd really do is ask him what he wants to do. Tell him that you are fine keeping them (obviously) but don't want any hard feelings about it. If he would like to remove them then this is fine as well. Give him the option. You'll feel better in the long run, I promise you. Even if you get the old rims back, you won't have it hanging over your head.
I know the pain of heartbreak is pretty bad and you would do anything to make it go away right away but the reality is that you have to go day by day. If you are having a very hard time with it you may just want to seek counseling to help you through this rough patch in your life. Once the initial shock and sadness wear off you need to take a look at yourself and tell yourself you deserve better.
The quickest way to get over a break up is to make sure you have zero contact with that individual. That means, no looking at their photos, reading their letters/emails/texts that you've saved, no trips down memory lane of all the fond memories you shared. Do you best to avoid that person and not run into them or be at places you know they are going to be. Once you've done that, start spending time with friends, or make new ones. Get yourself out there and start dating casually.
I agree with Jennifer, it was the not calling him. They are your best friend and if anything were to happen during the day like a fight with the boss or something good happening, you want to share it with that person but when you can't it's so hard. Sometimes you want to just say I love you darn it and want to hear their voice but you know you shouldn't and sometimes you can't. Plus you don't want them thinking you miss him, so you have to play the game.
t think it means you still love someone or are supposed to be with them if you continue to have dreams about them after you break up. Dreams are our subconscious way of working things out. I dream about things/people and it's 'just a dream'. Now, you very well may have moved on too fast with another person. I agree to break it off.
at this point you need to do what is best for you and your baby, even if it means leaving. it will hurt but it will get better.
Hi, I have read just about everyone's responses. Biblically, love is not a random, uncontrollable, cupid's bow-and-arrow force. We do choose who we love. The only misconception is that not too many people understand true love. Just about all the responses are from women. I am a woman myself and we are much more emotional creatures than men are. One day our spouse could be doing all the right things in bed and we climax and feel this sensual attraction to them.
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