We have to be knowledgeable about medicine in order to make the right decisions. And
the decision always lies with us.
We are the ones who sign and pay.
Are there good, ethical doctors out there? Yes, and I have one. As for obstetricians I had to look long and hard to find one who was not knife happy. As it turned out he was German, not American. No surprise there.
You are concerned about the lady who listed her question. So am I, or I would not have bothered replying.