I too have your problems. People who have no clue about what it's like usually don't have much to offer. Jeans- 100% cotton Harley-Davidson Jeans. Love!!! I have to take tiny pinch pleats in the back waist band, but LOVE them. Socks, Just keep looking and avoid spandex, Lycra is your friend. Someday they will have to tell us if it is natural rubber (LATEX) spandex, or synthetic (OKAY FOR US). Unfortunately latex is the cheapest, so that is what they use.