This sounds nothing like first
episode herpes infection, no. Something smaller than a freckle? No. Of course, I can't be certain you don't have herpes, but your description doesn't suggest herpes at all to me. Also, herpes symptoms, if you're going to have symptoms with first episode infection, happen within 2-10 days, most often.
But let me ask you this - were you both tested for sexually transmitted infections prior to beginning to have unprotected sex?