I am really confused by my boyfriend. I lost my husband who I share a son with almost four years ago. Was very suicidal, depressed and lost. No one could help me. Then my boyfriend now met me through a mutual friend and pretty much moved in a month later to try and help me around the house and my son and such. He said he really cared about me. He always "made" me cuddle with him, hug him, etc. And he made me feel so good. Like someone cared and someone I could trust.
(probably because we had this age gap... Is it really?) He is not sweet and romantic to me,he even get easily angry with me (which made me ask if he did this to his ex gfs) especially whenever I tease him. He also smoke when I am not around (which leads to our fight) and drink alcohol for about 8 times drunk a month...But I love him and I started to hate it with his vices... I know he cares to me in some other way... BUT still he is not that Romantic and Sweet.
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
Hi. Gosh, eleven years IS a very long time. I presume you live as a married couple and may even be considered as "common law" spouses at this point in your state. But I agree completely with you. We want our partner to declare their love for us publically and it sure would be nice if he'd just do that already.
I think if you feel this is becoming a deal breaker for you-------- you must communicate it that way.
I don't know anything about your gf, but I know when I went through major surgery I pushed a lot of people away. My thought process on it was that I didn't want to cause them pain to have to see and deal with me when I had to go through with it all. Which is pretty stupid, but that was the idea I had. Maybe she could be in that mind frame, so giving her some time can help. After the ordeal is over things can go back to how it was before.
My bf and I been dating for 1.5 yrs.I am 25 and he is 4 years elder to me.When we started dating he told me I was the girl for him.We had a wonderful initial dating period.After 6 months he moved to another country and we started a long distance.He changed after going there.I caught him flirting around few times for which he apologised saying they were just guy fun and he did not mean anything.Soon after i moved to the same place as him and things started getting better.
He asked me who I thought I was tellling him what to do. He then began to describe things he wanted to do to me. Pull me out of the care kick my teeth down my throat hit me and then slit my throat until he saw me die. I was terrified. Then just as fast as the whole thing happened, he looked at me and said now come inside so I can apologize for everything I just said to you. I was baffled. He tried to kiss me and I leaned away. I was bawling at this point.
t know until the time comes when she has the baby and he can get a dna test. What does he think? Has he seen her or seen anything to indicate that she is indeed pregnant. Having pics posted on myspace or not having pics posted doesn't mean anything. I have a hard time as well about the comment where he got this girl pregnant and yet he can't forgive you for meeting 2 guys while you were broken up. That doesn't make sense to me.
Being attracted to other people is not something to break up over. Have you never looked at another guy while in a relationship? The point is that he's not acting on these things. I know one thing that helps my husband I is talking about our fantisies or attractions. The hubs has a weird thing for redheads so once in a while I'll buy a box of washout hair dye to surprise him. The point is give him some slack he's normal, it doesn't mean he's cheating or will cheat.
Also staying together is just like honeymoon period if he truly loves me he would want to spend more time with me and want to have sex. But he is not, most of the time I initiated and I am sick and tire of it. And even though he may do all the right things, hold my hands, stroke my hair, kiss me, but somehow my instinct tells me that he did it out of obligation and responsiblity. There is no sincerety involved and true care and love.
We did love each other i still do , but we delth with so much family problems in both side trying to drive us apart , i dated before him none of the guys made me feel0 him he was so nice and after 3moths he told me i want to spend the rest of my life with pls make me a father i cant wait for us to be a family .
I am really sorry to say this-------- but he says what he means. He does not want to get engaged right now to you. You can try to figure out why but it will not change his mind. And let me just say------ you want the man you marry to be excited to ask you to be his wife. If you have to push him, well . . . it does not bode well for the future in many cases. I'd suggest backing off for a bit and during that time think about if he never proposed to you, would you be okay with that?
He was really nice, cuddled me all night long and in the morning he kissed me goodbye when he went to work and let me sleep in. I know thats a lot when we are just meeting. Anyways He started texting me sunday morning and he was saying how I should wear less clothing next time and wants to fool around. Thats not me, I don't want to be used and I told him a long time ago it takes awhile for me to have sex. Well he said its fun, I don't know if he wants to use me or not.
This has been eating at me for a while.. Just a little advice may help. I am 22 years old.
History is this --
Best friend, met at age 13. Boyfriends in between, but he yearned for me always.
Age 16, I give in, me and best friend become a couple. Very much in love, a spiritual connection like none other.
Age 17, I move and long distance is hard. Bad break up.
Age 17-21 Stuggle with my lost love, we become best friends again, but I always harbor these feelings.
He tells me how i always make him smile when i speak to him, he even came to meet me one time when he was ill, simply to see me.
Although, when he says he loves me he says only as mate, and he makes it clear its only as a mate
Hes made me really fall for him in such a short period of time, but i dont want to ask because if ive got the wrong idea i dont want to scare him off, and id ask a mate to but they are far from subtle about it..
Any advice?
Hi there, So, you are having a baby with him, is that right? Are you both teenagers? Lots of big things coming your way very soon. Are you living with his parents too or are you are with yours and he's with his? Sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to understand.
Do you have any support from your own family?
On the surface, I think it is smart to expect certain things out of the father of our children.
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over six months. We have a very good relationship, we hardly ever argue only very rarely over little stupid things but we make up that night always. Curiosity got the best of me and I went into his messages. He has alot of girls as friends so I expected to see him writing to other girls and such which didn't bother me but a couple of them did.
I mean he's been with other women before me, and he doesn't feel that way any longer. He keeps telling me he doesn't want to lose me over what he did during that break up, and that the only reason we'll break up is if I break up with him. He wants to stay for the long run.
Yes, I'm 21 and he's 23. We lived together for about 6 months last year, and we're moving back in together in July.
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