Yes I think I'd probably avoid it too. Kids are highly empathetic and you'll be in pain...that could be traumatic for her. I saw a birth when I was 18 or 19, and it was traumatic for me lol, and she's very young. I think if I were making the decision, I'd probably just bring her in for visits, and right afterwards. If she's one of the first to hold the baby, that will also make her feel like a part of it.