broke up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. she has had a physical ailment for 20 months and finally had surgery about 3 months ago.she says a relatinship is something that she doesnt want or cant handle right now.she says she still loves me, thinks about me and misses me. just wondering what all of this means and what is the best thing for myself.i still love her dearly and we are still in communication fairly frequently and know she is not into anyone else or anything like that.
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
A VERY thorough medical work up should relieve your mind that all your major systems are working just fine and giving therapy another chance is my advice to break this cycle. Finding the perfect fit with a therapist can take many tries. If you get with a therapist you really like and trust, you'd be amazed at how easy it is to talk to them. I think perhaps your last therapist was a "bad fit" and those almost always fail.
You are right, therapy would be a great option for you. The therapist will "break" your mind down to get to the root of things and then help build you up to be able to deal with these things, and become a happier person. A lot of fears such as yours come from a traumatic experience. Some things you may not even realize can effect anxiety such as that.
Maybe talk to your doctor and get a recomendation for a therapist in the area.
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There are no silly or stupid questions on this forum! Your question is very valid and it's one that many people have asked.
There are a number of ways to find a good therapist. You could ask some of your friends if they know one they would recommend. Your doctor can recommend one or two, or a clinic they are familiar with. Your local hospital usually can provide the names of therapists in your area.
Hi there, So, you are having a baby with him, is that right? Are you both teenagers? Lots of big things coming your way very soon. Are you living with his parents too or are you are with yours and he's with his? Sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to understand.
Do you have any support from your own family?
On the surface, I think it is smart to expect certain things out of the father of our children.
So i posted a little while ago, about having a boyfriend who talks down to me constantly. Well I finaly got up the courage and broke up with him. I tried to act like an adult, and not put the blame on him for anything in particular. I just told him I wasnt happy, and i think its because we dont see things the same way anymore. He yelled a bunch and told me he never wanted to hear from me again. Which I suppose is for the best. I just need some advice on moving on, some inpsirational words.
does anyone have any experience with a good therapist in the new york city area (or connecticut or new jersey, or greater new york city) --a Licensed clinical social worker--preferably female, who does Cognitive Behavioral therapy, and is in private practice (and if possible not contracted with any insurance companies).
I had an appt with my therapist Thursday, we just chatted. Usually I'm constantly looking a the clock, but that day I never looked at it once! It was refreshing to have someone to just chat with in a safe place. Usually she asks how my weeks were, what I was doing and ... I have been going to her for 11 years. She just got out of college and was starting out, I was realizing that I was depressed. Just wanted to say I had a good session!
Whenever I'm in a relationship , it first goes well then after half a year or so I don't feel the same about them anymore. It's like I fell out of love. And seeing them makes me anxious and irritated , overwhelmed. I'd rather be by myself than be around her. I feel suffocated and want to flee. I started to wonder if it's my depression making me feel like I don't want to be around her anymore?
Being attracted to other people is not something to break up over. Have you never looked at another guy while in a relationship? The point is that he's not acting on these things. I know one thing that helps my husband I is talking about our fantisies or attractions. The hubs has a weird thing for redheads so once in a while I'll buy a box of washout hair dye to surprise him. The point is give him some slack he's normal, it doesn't mean he's cheating or will cheat.
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