Having little ones makes it even harder to deal with
than when you have only you to worry about.
I have been with
my husband for almost 18yrs now. He has not been a habitual user since before we were married, but he will leave out of the blue, for 3-4 days at a time. When we were first together, the first time he did it, I had no idea why. Of course, I was naiive and believed whatever lie he had told me at the time. Before we got married, he had done it about 3x.