I guess it depends on your job. I had to tell mine early because I work in law enforcement, so taking hits is a bad idea. If you don't work in a job that can be physically harmful, you can probably tell them when you want.
Those you are closest to----------- like your parents, maybe one friend, and eventually your spouse----- those top relationships sit on the top. And it moves down from there. When you go through something traumatic, you have less energy to deal with those on the lower steps or tiers. After only two months, you can't expect to be at the top yet.
Your employer should not discuss your pregnancy as it's a medical condition and you are considered to be in a protected class. They can change your schedule if they want as long as the business dictates it. But they cannot tell you to take time off because of your pregnancy. You are entitled to rest/break periods during your work day you should definitely take them. You should document your conversations just in case if this seems to be a pattern with your employer.
At least in the US, you have no obliagtion to discuss your health with your employer, nor may your employer question you during the hiring process or otherwise. If a problem is evident that keeps you from fulfilling your duties, that's when some talking is in order.
Since you have no diagnosis and only suspicions about what is wrong, you would be very wise to say nothing to anyone at work.
Check the Health Pages for a lot of legal info that should be of help.
However, if you feel things are OK with your job, may be best left alone and not cause any added problems. I can tell you your employer probably has shades of doubts, even if they remain unspoken, so you'll have to decide.
Errors do happen. Still, the patch you used wasn't prescribed, so that would be seen in my eyes as an employer as drug abuse, so always be careful what you use even if it's for pain.
I don't know where you live but in the state of Minnesota it is required by law that your employer gives you a 15 minute break for every four hours you work. I'd look into it. That's mean to expect anyone pregnant or not to go 7 hrs without eating.
Document in a notebook the times you are taking your break and what you are doing during your break. And also document if your boss refuses to let you take your break. Document everything. But most importantly you need to be the one to tell them it's time for you to take a break, don't wait for them to offer it to you cause they won't.
Hi there, So, you are having a baby with him, is that right? Are you both teenagers? Lots of big things coming your way very soon. Are you living with his parents too or are you are with yours and he's with his? Sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to understand.
Do you have any support from your own family?
On the surface, I think it is smart to expect certain things out of the father of our children.
Get physically active and fill up your time with things that can make you happy. Do things that are different from the things you did with him. Make some new friends from a different group of people. Change your life in a positive direction and don't give yourself much time alone- even much time to think!! All you can do is distract yourself-- but the funny thing, is that the longer you do this, the better it works. And one day, you will wake up and find that your heart aches less.
And my OB told me to work up to my due date. I really only want to work 25-30 hours per week, which my employer would be happy to comply with. But I need a note from my OB. My question is will they give me these restrictions just because I'm tired and I want them? Also I feel awkward about asking everytime I go to the clinic. Afraid they will say no I guess and I would be devastated. Any advice??
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