”) So if you learned to come quickly when being sexual with yourself, that can also set
up a lifelong pattern. Learning to come quickly
with a
partner can also set
up this pattern. Guilt and anxiety about sex may also create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.