Statistically it is extremely unlikely your parter had HIV, which remains rare in western countries (including
Australia) in heterosexuals without special risk factors; HIV is never transmitted by kissing or oral contact anywhere on the body, including (usually) oral-genital contact; HIV cannot be transmitted through clothing. HIV is harder to transmit than many people realize, and with rare exceptions, if a bare penis is not inserted into a vagina or anus, there no risk of transmission.