ve heard--especially about
women.
Women are as diverse as men. However, most
women are much more interested in a caring, considerate partner than merely a hard penis.
It seems to me there’s something psychological contributing to your concern. A good first step would be to explore what’s going on. Start by reading a book about male sexuality to discover what other men are sharing about their experiences. I recommend “the New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D.