You don't need to lose weight anywhere, you need to work on your self-confidence and how you feel about yourself; the problem isn't physical, it's mental. Trust me girl, I've been there! I never thought that being 20 pounds heavier would make me happier, but it has! I don't know what to tell you other than to see a counsellor, there can be some good ones that do "pro-bono" work - that is, free of charge, they are normally volunteer services.