Most of the advice here says that the risk of spreading a STD by touching,
massage, asian massage parlors, etc is very..very low, if not non-existent.
However if you go to Columbia University's 'Go Ask Alice' site... you see this...
As such, the most common cause of herpes is direct skin-to-skin contact during vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who has an active infection. It is possible, however, to spread the virus via the fingers (i.e.