I am having my kidney stones removed on Friday by lithotripsy. They are extremely painful, cause scarring and reflux and
will continue to damage the kidney
until removed. You are NOT a freak, nor were you born one. This problem happens to many, many people and please make sure you're persistent with your own care.
As far as things helping, I try to avoid meat and spinach which makes it worse and also drink alot of cranberry juice and water.
I really hope this helps !!!!