I fear commitment
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i never ever believe this crap or fall for or even like a guy. i have had a lot of sex... around 2 dozen since i started having sex at 18. i dont trust men. i know they will pull the same crap on me as barry did. i can imagine myself in a heathy relationship because everyone im with is replaceable or manipulative, ive had enough. i want to trust them but i honestly dont see why. i caught my dad having multiple affairs 2 years ago. i didnt tell my mom. or my family.. and only one of my friends.
When I agreed to live together I was already certain that I wanted to marry him, but no commitment of that sort has ever come from his side. I have mentioned the subject at several occasions, I have hinted and I have even accused him of not wanting to commit, but he just sticks to the excuse that he cannot marry me if he is not in a financial position to support me.
This is why I’m still wondering if it’s fear of commitment or could his concerns be legitimate. I guess my real question is, what are the odds he will come around and decide we should be together. I know you can’t answer that, but any further perspective would be so appreciated.
Thank you!
3 months ago we bought our house which i put the deposit down for. I know we have made a big commitment buying a house together, but my partner will not discuss our future, i have tried to mention it a few times. I have now given up, he will just say who is getting married or who is having children! His family are going on at him about marriage and children but he just ignores their comments and conversations. Im wondering why he agreed to a mortgage if he isnt sure what he wants?
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I am 17 years old, graduated, and am scheduled to leave for military bootcamp 10 days from now. There is alot of doubt and fear whether or not I am making the right decision. I find it hard to come to a decision and stick with it over the simplest things. I tend to over-analyze every situation even.
In the past I had taken Lexapro for depression, Resperedahl for sleep, and Trileptal for racing thoughts/mood swings.
I must say by you responding to those questions it helped me to overcome a few difficult weeks. ( I know Teak sometimes you thought I should know better as you told me). I needed the reasurrance at that time. Please keep up the good work.
I am happy to say we are still together, we are now engaged and very happy. I go for testing approx every four months and am still negative.
My 20 year old daughter is 23 weeks pregnant and has been shooting Dilaudid IV. Tonight she was experiencing withdrawals and we went to the ER. They basically did nothing but gave her fluids and told her to follow up with her OB. Now she says she doesn't care anymore since they obviously didn't because they did nothing. Can I involuntarily commit her? She has bipolar disorder also and has tried to commit suicide before and I'm honestly afraid for her and the baby right now.
I fear the unknown, and hate to be alone. But everyday I stay now feels like a day wasted. He is a good provider and good father. But we are more like roomates. We have seperate friends. I keep asking everyone what to do and some say try and work it out for the kids and others say they would have been gone along time ago.
I've read the responses from the questioner re/how to commit someone whose addiction is life threatening. The consensus from responders is that the individual has to want help or treatment will not be successful. I agree, having had 3 children who've been addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. My youngest 2 went through treatment multiple times and finally successfully recovered, leading responsible, productive lives. My oldest, however, is still addicted.
i have commitment issues and the girlfriend i was with gave me oral sex. i haven't seen her since. i feel like such a ***** but she told me she never did anything like oral sex before and here i am 8days away from 3months. she told me she's gotten pap tests but none of which would check for herpes. i didn't have actual intercourse which would make the test useless. i have had a cold sore before so i dunno how useful a test for hsv1 would be.
Well tomarows a big day, I decided that Im feeling well enough to drop from 3mgs to 2 mgs, I had some doubts last week, as I did have some days when I felt beaten & weak, but I cant explain what happened but after 8 days of feeling like a walking zombie, I snapped out of it, maybe its my vitamins or maybe my body got adjusted to the lower dose? Whatever happened it feels good to feel normal.
every now and then we will talk about the future or commitment. And almost right afterwards, I freak out. I shut down, get nervous, start to feel like I don't really like him at all, I don't know if I should break up with him, etc.
The last time I felt this way, I was able to get past it. I'm feeling it again, though. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose another great relationship, but I feel overwhlemed by anxiety and dread at the same time.
This intense fear of rejection just turns me into stone. Looking back, I found that I have had this problem before. The girls that I really like, that I know would work, I can't make the right moves. I've been with many women, some relationships and others friends with benefits. Not all I had to make the moves on, some made them on me. But, in 3 cases that I know of, all the stars aligned and I blew it. I froze up.
I need relationship help. I am not sure why I always come the forum whenever I am in relationship problems.. Maybe its because people I do not know give me honest opinions. Well yesterday I gave my celibacy to a great guy. We have been going out for a month now and things are going fantastic. We both agreed on being just friends until we are both ready for commitment. We both talk to other people but it never gets to the next level because we both in some way intrigued by each other presence.
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