fear of talking in meetings

Hey Kathy, I agree with guv and gnarly on this one. You will never find a more accepting group. You are a member if you say you want to be one, period. You've earned your spot. Of course you'll be anxious about walking in but that anxiety will go away quickly. Closed meetings are defined as meetings for those with a problem or those thinking they have a problem. I have been to both the open and closed meetings and don't believe you have anything to fear from either of them.

Using is just a symptom of what is really going on with us. The fear of the unknown is scary but the fear of what the pills really do to us is by far worse. There isnt a happy ending if we continue to use. That is a guarantee..........

ll love it, imagine a group of us from MH in a room, doubt you feel close to all of us, you may not even like some of us, but we all kind of accept each other, as long as we have a desire to be better, no matter how you are when you show up. My favorite meetings feel just like this place, but with real 3D hugs.

I think that I am so worried that I will continue to enable him as I always have in the past that I am being extra careful to find that fine line of enabling and supporting and not cross it. I did explain to him that some of his actions in the last two days have crossed my line of what I will tolerate (calling old friend, etc.). I explained that I am very proud of him but just because he has quit does not mean that the war has been won.

The drug game is a deadly game and none of us are exempt. Paranoia has already set in for you along with the lack of euphoria. We all understand what you are going thru as we have been there. We are also here to let you know there is hope and recovery. I hope you stick around and talk to us.

I got sober/clean living in a small town of 8000 ppl in 1983.I had a former job as a juvenile probation officer and i used to drink/use in the morning as an excuse(lousy) due to so called job stress!LOL!i wore these big tinted glasses thinking no one knew!the first AA meeting i went to was being chaired by a young man whose girlfriend was a former probationer of mine!His jaw dropped when I walked in and he said"this is a closed meeting for alcoholics only"!!!

i am 99.999% sure you don't have to talk in an NA meeting. you can just go and listen. i am in LA and can't find a meeting anywhere.

, working the 12 steps, going to meetings, having a home group(so people get to know you) , reading the literature, doing service work are all the suggestions of the program and I personally went in with a huge fear and an attitude to cover that fear. I kept relapsing and not know why until it came to me that I have to do the WHOLE program not just a bit here and a bit there,I surrendered!!!.

I found many pieces of small folded up papers in back. One of them again had that strange looking powder in it. Every weekend he has to go "hang out" at a friend's house. I never go with him because these friends like to drink, smoke (marijuana), and sit around talking about who slept with who. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or sleep around. I never have, and that's why I don't socialize with his "friends".

this is day two of being off vicodin . I went to two meetings yesterday and they were a great support and gave me hope and strength to battle this disease.. The diahrea is starting to kick in though..

s almost impossible to happen (especially in Lithuania because in our country there are no bat-human rabies transmission documented) and that i don't even know if it was bat but I keep thinking that it was bat and that i will get rabies from it. I don't know what should I do.

I am a reasonably healthy 47 year old male, and I have been having strange speech symptoms. For about the last 4 weeks, I will be in the middle of talking and I will become suddenly hoarse. It's kind of like the "frog in the throat" feeling but stronger. It will usually go away in a few seconds after I clear my throat or drink something, but this seems to be happening with increasing frequency.

The video Clean_n_Kansas mentioned explains the survival mechanism that addicts have developed. Drugs make an addict more like a rat or lizard even, than a human being. The decision maker brain is turned off and a sense of fear pushes the craving. It feels like we need it, if you don't put drugs in your body, it gets better. You felt better before this run, right? You will feel good again, take it on faith for now. You are healing, you are having growing pains.

Shes just giving ya tough love and hoping u will look at your part in it and grow from it.. Go back to the meeting with your head held high. Don't allow your ego to get the best of ya here. Remember our actions speak louder than words. When I came back to the rooms after my last relapse I felt the same emotions ur feeling. People were just wanting to see if I was serious this time. It took time for me to gain their trust as I burnt a lot of bridges. We r always scarred of the unkown.

Hi, For me, therapy is where I let the rats of the attic and learned to deal with the root of my problem. NA/AA meetings are where I learn to deal with life on life's terms. I found I needed both to help me to stay clean. The fellowship is also where I have made new friends..clean friends. It is the place I get humble and remain accountable for my addiction. Here is the link to find meetings near you: http://portaltools.na.org/portaltools/MeetingLoc/ If nothing else, give it a shot.

What on2better says is EXACTLY spot on. My exact experience from the initial feeling of judgement of everyone "Where are all the nice girls like me? Bunch of icky addicts" etc. But then w/ more meetings etc. not only do you find more people but also the wisdom coming out of the most unusual places. I did alanon for years before I began my addiction, so I already had the familiarity of 12 step. But, NA is exactly like the above poster says. Some folks choose AA.

I was the only woman but I totally identified with what they said better than some other meetings. Do get a sponsor. It sounds like you are very alone with this in the center of a circle of friends who use. This is doomed without support. Start with meetings. At least you know that everyone there can identify with your goal and won't work against it.

Thank you for reply. "loop" is prerecorded video that doesn't last for long and is used on such web-sites to trick people into thinking they are talking with person that is showed on video. Something like in that movie "Speed" with Sandra Bullock(if you watched it) when she tricks hijacker into thinking nothing is happening in bus.

I learned more on those visits than any. It does feel good to know we are not alone in this struggle. Theres ALOT of those meetings all over the world. We are not alone. Ill be the first to admit I thought NA wasnt for me. It was for everyone else with a drug problem. Not me Haha I was sooooo wrong. I felt comfortable the minute I walked in. For the first time in along time I didnt have judgemental eyes looking back at me. I hate that.

A fear of death is quite normal and is actually a fear of the unknown. Has he know someone or something (pet) that has died or seen it on TV? I don't know your spiritual background, but whatever it is, that is a good place to start talking to him about it. Speak to him about (your belief) of what happens after death and that it is a natural process of life.

you can and will do this, you have come so far and are alot of help to members on here. keep going to the meetings and use your second chance with all you got.

I am a reasonably healthy 47 year old male, and I have been having strange throat symptoms. For about the last 4 weeks, I will be in the middle of talking and I will become suddenly hoarse. It's kind of like the "frog in the throat" feeling but stronger. It will usually go away in a few seconds after I clear my throat or drink something, but this seems to be happening with increasing frequency.

I met her at a meeting on Sunday, last night, and we are going to another meeting tonight.

I too struggle with panic attacks and the fear of them returning. Have you talked to your dr about this? You might want to consider talking with a therapist. I do know that if you let the fear take over your mind it is only going to get worse. The best advice I can give you is to talk to someone and try to face the fear. Get back in your car and go for a drive even if it is only around the block. Each time you do it it will get easier. You have to take your control back.

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