My methods have either been condoms/spermacide, depo
, or the Mirena IUD.
Definitely put a call into your doctor or planned parenthood, they can help you decide what method is the best.
As far as regular lubes go, we like Aqualube, sold at Rite-Aid. Astroglide is okay, not a fan of KY, avoid any "prolonging" or ones that claim to heat up, they can cause some problems.