dealing with death of a spouse

While the advice to lie to him about her death makes sense at first, however, from the lens of deeper wisdom, understanding the fact that we are not just a body with flesh and bones, but also a Spirit with a Soul that never die, you can answer truthfully that she's ALWAYS around, but just not there physically. And if you are able to connect with him at the Soul level, he will not argue this. There's something almost magical and divine that takes place there!

I managed to taper myself off the pain meds and having living a reasonably healthy lifestyle. I'm not judgmental in any way of what people are dealing with because I understand how hard it is to change a routine or pattern. My wife happens to like beer...really like it. I don't mind her drinking beer at all and sometimes I'll even purchase the exotic beers for her so she could enjoy something else.

All we can do is detach ourselves and allow them to feel the consequences of their substance abuse. No calling the boss with excuses; no excuses of any kind to anyone as a matter of fact. If he doesn't show to family functions, tell them the truth. Anything you do that makes life easier for him to use needs to stop. We can't rescue them from themselves. All we can do is protect ourselves the best way we can. Hear this loud and clear: his addiction is NOT your fault!

for the baby and how much will effect him. I usually a very emotional person when dealing with death and I feel like a horrible person for not allowing myself to feel bad. What do I do???

I lost a a brother, a son and a gandson and we NEVER get over this type of loss. We learn to move on, to cope, we manage. It does get easier, I don't know how or why, just that it does. Often you will think of your brother and smile, other times you will cry. Your brother would want you to be happy, and you must carry on his memory thru you! But there are no words of comfort right now, just that you try to keep moving forward with your life.

I lost my grandfather a few months ago at the beginning not my pregnancy. .with a good support system it was easier. I truly believed he was in a better place. Somehow carrying a child made it alot easier to deal with.

those thought cross all of our minds...my husband has been amazing but we have only been dealing with this for a few weeks, and I still havent been dx. But the thoughts for me are there already...we have no insurance, my husband is a young contractor who just started his company a couple of years ago. He is already planninng to put his company on hold and work for a bigger company that has insurance...but then you have pre existing conditions, who knows if they cover that....

the funeral is this week and i dont know how she is going to be,im worried because she isnt more upset or is this just her way of dealing with this. we do speak to her about it and speak about her friend but she seems to show no emotion at all.

As mentioned above, it is very hard dealing with the suffering of the animals. I always felt I had a good perspective on the whole issue, but this recent death made me realize I was perhaps somewhat out of focus. I think I've just had to personally put down and seen put down just one cat to many. It's something I've never cared for and with changes to funding and services I'm beginning to feel more like an executioner than a help.

I have already been the beneficiary of some great advice from Vance and Teak. A question for the group... How do you deal with all the differing views on risk behavior? For example, this forum has a pretty firm stance about the low/no risk nature of oral sex for hiv transmission. Yet even my own cities Met Health Clinic (SA, TX) councils that getting a blow job is high risk due to potential lesions, etc.

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Just like falling in love takes time so does dealing with a passing of a loved one.Just opposite ways of feeling.Love and loss,two parts of life that both hurt.For loving anyone or anything,such as a pet can lead to pain.All feelings lead to pain and despair,eventually.So do we stop feeling,stop loving,stop caring,no we just learn to adjust to our new lives without that loved one that pet,that friend.whom ever.Death ends a life,not a relationship.

That's rough. Meth isn't a casual use drug. Your spouse with addiction issues is using. I'm sorry to hear that. I think he's still active in his addiction. Would you guess that he also uses other times you don't know about? I feel for you so much. I really do. What has caused you to stay all this time? The money issue? That's what gets a lot of people. Have you been to al anon before? This might really help. You need support people in your life.

s 63 and I am 55... but he is a fighter and my hero .. I wish with all that I am ,they would find a CURE for this.. so many millions suffer from it.... I'm not sure how easy it is to catch .. If anyone has this info , please let me know... I have tested negative so far...

While I am dealing with this, I am taking care of my father who is basically on a path to self destruction with his continued drinking. He died on August 14th of last year and it seems I have been blocking all of this out untill now. I was wondering what some of you, who have dealt with this would reccomend I do.

Things have been crazy, therefore, I have lost track of where we stand with the challenges and stuff. Mike got a job in Columbus, 4 hours away from where we currently live. So, we have had to find an apartment, get everything handled for that, get him moved, and now I will only see him on weekends until I get a job and I can move with him! It ***** being away from your fiance when you have a 19 month old together!!! I needless to say, have also not worked out AT ALL in two weeks.

allow for some acknowledgement that this is a REAL condition, something a LOT of people suffer with....and give them some ideas on how to help. Wishing you all the best!

im 19 wks pregnant and i have a fetus with a diagnosis of CPC im scared to death because i have to wait 3 wks to go to a specialist...anyone have any hopes or ideas??

t do for myself much) and got a little something for myself. A purse one year, a home décor item, a pair of shoes. Just one thing that I really liked. May sound a little selfish but I do for everyone else and this was my treat in honor of my mom for me. :>) I also always took myself to lunch. I don't do that so much anymore but mostly because I have kids and hardly have the time for that right now. On that anniversary day, I always have some quiet moments.

Need to get into family therapy, it really helps with dealing with this sort of stuff.

At first it seems like the light at end of the tunnel, is so far and out of reach, but with the right support the tunnel is not so scary. This is what I tell myself everyday. I say, "Rachel, live today like Cooper would want you to!" "Live this day to make all his Angel Buddies proud!!" Your daughter does not want you to be sad, she wants you to LIVE. Keep her alive by sharing her life with others, the more you tell the more will LOVE!!!!!

Being there for your husband, taking care of your child and dealing with the financial challenges that can come with an illness like this. Finding others who are or have dealt with similar situations might be a great source of support for you, and you count too! Take good care honey and I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts.

Dawn, That may be the most straight forward counseling I have every heard Pastor Dan use here and I second his quiet anger at this man. "why can't we be friends" doesn't even work in movies or on tv, why would it in real life. Please don't get sucked into that thought because it is another way to manipulate you. Letting you free from the commitment of living with MS?

many human friends, a few feline ones, and even tolerated his cousin, a high-strung Yorkie. As my post-cancer life continues: focus now on how to repair or live with radiation damaged tissues; watching for spread of cells or reoccurrence, I wonder if I can take care of another kitty. There were many times I thought Bruno and I might pop off at the same time, as both of us were seniors. I fight agoraphobia, but am doing much better than 6 months ago. Go out most days.

Hi everyone, I lost my Father a year ago at this time. although the his loss was sudden and a shock to the entire family, I felt that I handled his death very well. I mean I grieved real hard for a couple of weeks then I figured it was part of life and time to move on. I loved him and would always cherish his memory. I really thought I was dealing with this in a healthy manner.

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