Hello,
From the symptoms these small red bumps can be due to friction rub during intercourse or folliculitis. They do not sound like herpes. Herpes presents as
blisters on or around the genitals or rectum. The blisters break, leaving tender ulcers (sores) that may take two to four weeks to heal the first time they occur. Typically, another outbreak can appear weeks or months after the first, but it almost always is less severe and shorter than the first outbreak.