That's coming from a dad with four kids
It does seem like you're struggling with anxiety
, panic, and just plain nervousness. When you are having trouble breathing right, try taking slow, deep breaths, and exhaling slowly. Your belly should move in and out when doing so. There are lots of YouTube videos on how to calm yourself through proper breathing.
Also, when you have a panic attack, like in the middle of the night, tell yourself "This is just anxiety, so I'm fine.