I've always found that excellent chocolates go well with a whine...
I've done the wetting thing 4 times, but then, I'm a year older than you, ha ha. I'm not trying to make light of your situation, just trying to keep laughing, keep away from despair.
And I'm not experiencing anywhere near the issues that you are. I feel for you, I really do.
I hope you share how you're feeling with yur doctor, and you can work out something that will help you feel more in control.