I tell you what happened to me, little different, but it is also about blame. I used to blame some relative because
of my father
death, he got his second deadly heart attack by talking to that person, and the subject was upsetting to my father. After soon I realized I was wrong, because he could of die just about from anything in that stage his heart was at the time. I think that person felt the same, guilt and sorrow but never said to us, but he helped a lot later on many ways.