It would probably be more helpful to the person asking the question if you took your arguments with each other off to your message board. Whatever
effexor did to one
and whatever
paxil did to the other is not a competition. As both of you said one time or another, people have their own experience with medication and react the way they do individually, and cannot be applied to ALL, just because you experienced it. Everyone goes through things in different degrees, different variables, etc.