The only thing I was going to mention was about maybe when choosing a hospital, thinking about choosing a
TEACHING Hospital. He went to UCSF, (I know you are in another state), but what i found was that the other hospitals didn't seem to include the PATIENT in the discussions, and their input was minor. In the teaching hospitals, you will be told the terrible truth for sure(I am speaking about MY experience, not suggesting you have something horrible to be told!