hysterectomy and sexuality

i had a hysterectomy when i was 21 and i have two lil grls and over the last two years my sex drive has dropped so much that i swear if i never had sex again that would be okay with me. but my husband of six years is running out of patience. i feel violated when we even talk about sex and i used to want to all the time we used to be all over each other our sex life was at least twice a day. and now its once a month and i hate every minute of it.

No, it's not necessary. Why remove body parts that are perfectly functional? Find another gynocologist. I had to see three gynocologists before i was happy. A hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) has long term effects on a woman's health, longevity, and sexuality. Women who have undergone a hysterectomy have a greater risk of a heart attack (triple the risk according to some studies), osteoporosis, and depression.

My doctor performed an endometrial ablation 3 years ago due to heavy bleeding, but that has proven to be a useless endeavor since my bleeding not only did not stop but at this point has resumed to be a normal period. At this point my Dr is recommending a partial hysterectomy and would leave at least one ovary. However due to both my own medical history and that of my family the idea of leaving the offending organs in place seems to me not to be a good idea.

I have identified as heterosexual all my life and now I am questioning my sexuality as well?! Could this be a confusion caused by not having that familiar pull towards the opposite sex? I still can't deny that men are attractive to me. Now I think women might be too?!

Sometimes I will masturbate in a chatroom with females and sometimes i can ejaculate and some times not. When I do ejaculate which is rare I don't have a very good erection and its not very enjoyable. I want to know if there are other guys out there with the same problem and please give me some answers to let me know what to do . I love my wife and want to stay married to her but she is going to get fed up sooner or later and so far she has been very understanding.

my sickly 17 yr old niece started talking to a girl in a male voice and fell in love with that girl but when she revealed the girl said she wil go along and be with with her and wait for sex change op. now the girl got a good job and she rejected by niece, so my niece not eating or studying cutting herself up and her mom to make her male. we i and my siter not working and doesn't have any means to do all that.

thank you gagootza, I think you've understood my inner feelings. Although I'm 27 I feel link an adolescent...it' just my first experiences,and I'm sure I have all the paranoic feelings that a teenager has. As in all other issues of my life, I should face my fears; it's against my "will" to do anything in life, and thus, I must insist.

Hi there. Well, let me just say this. We date for a reason. We are supposed to be looking at the other person critically and deciding if the relationship should go long term or not. This man has a different level of sexual libido than you do. Tired and neck pain and stress ---- those things are off and on for life. So, I'd imagine this is him. This is what it would be like long term. So often, there is a difference between the sexual needs between partners.

Some people are into quite unusual stuff, which is fine as long as their partner is into it too. As new partners, and husband and wife, it is bound to take some time as you explore what each of you like to find out what works best for both of you - particularly since you currently have no experience, and (for all I know) he may or may not also be inexperienced. For this reason, don't put too much expectation on the first time.

and i dont know what to do to let him feel sexy and have the desire to do intercoarse and to let him arouse and when he act i dont feel arouse and as any girl must feel why?

d like to become genderless, if possible. My first goal is to get a hysterectomy and get rid of my sexual organs, but I understand that hormones may still play a part in this. Is it possible to medically remove these hormones forever, and to become completely genderless (neither man nor woman)? I don't want to end up growing hair on my face or anything, though. I know this sounds incredibly stupid, but I am completely serious and have done a lot of thinking about this.

I love to have sex and use to like doing it 2 times a day but now its so painful to even have sex. It feels like he is hitting something on in the pelvic area or right on top of my vagina. I was wondering why it started to be so painful? Has any of you ladies ever have this problem? This discussion is related to <a href="/posts/Sexuality--Relationships/why-does-doggy-style-hurt/show/741390">why does doggy style hurt?</a>.

Okay... I've had HOCD for 3 years. I'm a female who is obsessed with the possibility of being bi or a lesbian. Sounds like that's the case for you too. Your sexuality can't really change. It is was it is. A HUGE part of OCD is doubt doubt doubt. I keep doubt every single day of my sexuality and it causes me so much distress. People aren't disgusted by their sexuality. Remember: gay people fear the outcome of coming out not their attraction.

There is nothing wrong with being gay or fantasizing about other men. If my sons were gay, it wouldn't bother me at all. Having intrusive thoughts is a different thing. You said you tried masturbating while thinking about men and now feel worse. Maybe you were just experimenting with your sexuality. Have you ever thought you might be gay but fear the social stigma attached to it - like really thought about it.

I suffer from anxiety and depression, and I believe my on-going unanswered question of who I truly am is the true cause. About 4-5 years ago my real questioning began. I became good friends with a classmate and even got to know his family well. The family suspected possible gay orientations and questioned him. (It was a normal friendship between two males, no homosexual acts) It freaked me out and was hurtful. It spun me into a anxiety/depression state of mind and have battling it ever since.

I am a 21 year old female who is confused right now, and its giving me a lot of anxiety. I have never had a boyfriend or had sex, but have had crushes on guys, gone on dates with them, and wanted to eventually do sexual things with them. The dates never amounted into anything, and I've attributed that to me being picky and also in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Also, I have woken up with orgasms before and find that I touch myself in my sleep without even meaning to and would like to stop this.

My son is 12, is a great kid, but sudenly he became obsessed with sex. He masturbates frequently, sometimes in front of othe people. He told us that he masturbated wearing his sister's clothes (lingerie - bra and panties). He said that sometimes he looked at other boys butt's, and that he even looked at his own mother in a lustful way. He is very candid about his actions, and he ends up telling us everything, but he is feeling very ashamed of his actions and thpughts.

I didn't really know where to put this... But anyways. I'm a bisexual girl and my best friend is a girl. I was at her house and we were talking about marrige (only 14 haha) So I said "I hope my husband or wife has a cool apartment" and she just looked at me. Then she said "Wife!" and then I told her I was bisexual. She just looked at me and said "I don't wanna sleepover with you now, I feel like you're gonna rape me in my sleep!" I felt terrible.

I had a talk just the two of us. She told me that he woke her up and wanted her to lay with him. And showed her his private. I told her that I am glad she told me. I let her know she was not in trouble at all. I talked with my fiancee' about it. I don't want him here. He said well he's my family. what am I supposed to do? Well, she's our daughter is what I said. I don't want over. He did that to my daughter once, don't want it happening again.

I have asked her some time ago about abuse, and she and I have a fairly honest relationship. Her reply was; "No". I still had cause to suspect abuse, perhaps in her childhood, but decided to just take her answer and let it be easier on her. I didn't think it would necessarily help her if I dug into her personal life, so I dropped the subject. Some years ago, as I got to know her history, I suspected abuse again.

t have any suggestions or experience with this but I want to wish you the best in exploring your sexuality and finding yourself

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