In fact, you are who you are, so you need
to make your peace with that and figure out
how to make your sexuality work best
for you. It might help you to feel less tense if you self-pleasure more often. This may also slow down your orgasm pattern.
There are many reasons why the skin on your penis can become dry--some are just the result of not washing, sweat, irritation, etc., but some conditions may require you to see a urologist, so please consider seeing a urologist to discuss this.