How to make someone break up with you
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I think you should tell her that you understand how she feels and will respect those feelings and not bother her anymore, and stand by these words. If she truly loves you and there is just a glimmer of her wanting to work thru this, then your absence will make it happen. She needs to "miss you" so that she can think about everything. Your absence may make her realize that she can get over this, if not, then you just have to accept that it's over, learn by it and move on.
It seems like this feeling will never go away and you cannot imagine yourself with someone else...what a bleak, depressing and dangerous feeling.
But please remember there is hope.
I know it's an old cliche but time really does heal...when I left my husband after 16 yrs. I was a mess. I missed my "old life" so much and I truly felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
Get physically active and fill up your time with things that can make you happy. Do things that are different from the things you did with him. Make some new friends from a different group of people. Change your life in a positive direction and don't give yourself much time alone- even much time to think!! All you can do is distract yourself-- but the funny thing, is that the longer you do this, the better it works. And one day, you will wake up and find that your heart aches less.
t bear to break his heart and do what? Send him back home? What if I make a mistake? If I was to break up with him.. how the hell would I do this? It's scary to think about... but if it's not going to work in the long run, isn't waiting going to make it even worse for him? Sometimes I just want freedom to explore any other options, like meeting someone in my area who has all the qualities I want in someone.
But then I think about how loved I am..
We not only have answers, but experience. Break ups if not handled properly can be very damaging, debilitating and can effect all aspects of your life negatively. You beging by accepting the reality of the situation and that you can't change it. Also, when you break up with someone that you loved, it's a loss (like a death) and it will be necessary to experience the stages of grief in order to heal and this will take time.
I don't know anything about your gf, but I know when I went through major surgery I pushed a lot of people away. My thought process on it was that I didn't want to cause them pain to have to see and deal with me when I had to go through with it all. Which is pretty stupid, but that was the idea I had. Maybe she could be in that mind frame, so giving her some time can help. After the ordeal is over things can go back to how it was before.
I do understand what you are saying. But even if you were somewhat supportive of family time and even enjoyed it a lot of the time, you still resent his mom. That's always tricky and especially so with a man that really hasn't shown that he feels you would be in the right to question her. He's as attached to her as she is to him and you have to understand that. I do also fully understand how hard it is when you think something may work, you love someone, etc. and to walk away.
at this point you need to do what is best for you and your baby, even if it means leaving. it will hurt but it will get better.
So I broke up with my boyfriend after a somewhat rocky seven year relationship. The guy didnt treat me great. I often heard (mostly in rocky times) "your a ****** joke" and well he could yell for hours. Just couldnt calm down. There were lost of trust issues, compatibility issues but we were crazy about each other. We had so much history. So I persevered through the years with a positive outlook that has caused me palpitations and constant anxiety about the future.
I know how you feel. I broke up with my boyfriend last week because the way he was treating me was disgraceful. Apparently it was all my fault though because I'm pregnant and I'm a "drama queen". But mine wasn't just other girls...he ended up treating me like he hated me, and treated other girls ("friends") better than he treated me...he wouldn't even go in public with me because he was embarrassed that I'm pregnant and "fat".
That sort of behaviour can be very off-putting, and is more likely to drive him away than make him want to be with you. By all means be available to spend time with him, and enjoy time together when you can, but don't be too pushy.
I'd agree he seems like he's being somewhat selfish and inconsiderate. But if you do want to try and make this relationship work out, now's not the time to make an issue of it, when he's already half-way out of the door.
m not sure how much more you need to know before you just break yourself free from this. He seems to be the kind of guy that HAS to be with a woman at all times. He also has you on a string with maybe's down the row.
I'd move on and find someone more established in their life (not new to divorce) and who has a health situation to offer you. This guy doesn't. And now you two have too much baggage between you as well. So, just move on and find someone to start over with.
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