t mention your gender, but if you are female, and he is male, using valacyclovir, and avoiding sex when you have
symptoms, and assuming sex 2-3x a week means that he has about a 2% chance per year
of getting hsv2 from you. If you add condoms to that, it's about 1%.
We don't have stats for same sex couples, unfortunately, but for two men, we assume it's at least the same, maybe a bit higher.
You deserve someone who isn't afraid of being intimate with you.