Fear of intimacy
Common Questions and Answers about Fear of intimacy
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You're asking me to help with your partner's lack of desire, and I can't change anything for her. If this is an important issue for her, why isn't SHE writing to me?
You can't change/fix her unless she's unhappy with the situation too. Your first step is to ask her how she feels. Has it occurred to you that she may have some issues with your relationship as well?
It is hard for me to tell if you have a lot of fear, which potentially could be clouding the experience of excitement that is usually felt at the beginning of relationships, or if you actually just aren't into this guy. I usually try to go with a gut feeling, and if your gut feeling is saying that you aren't really into him, I would trust that.
But then, my next question for you would be: what are your fears with intimacy?
I'm an 18 y/o girl and I'm so terrified of sex that it's actually ruining my life. I shake uncontrollably before. I even start shivering. I freak out when he tries to take my clothes off and I just want to get up, cry, and scream. It's so bad that I think that I should just go through with it and lay there till it's over just to satisfy him. When I was 14 I was with a very sexual 20 y/o which, I know was a very very bad idea.
I've been dating this guy since the 4th of July on and off, but now it's official. Normally i'd be falling head over heals for a guy, but this time it's different. i like this guy i'm dating, but i'm not falling head over heals for him. my last few relationships went down the drain because i was head over heals and i would get screwed over by the guy, so i was just wondering is there something wrong with me or is that completely normal?
I'm 22+3 and have the same kind of problem. First and foremost being worried about squishing the baby. Not to mention that I run out of steam so fast that even after 10 minutes of exertion I'm already wiped out and pretty much leave the rest up to him!
It really depends on what types of drugs that other person is taking. You'd really have to know the history of what they took/take. Not to scare you at all, but there are people out there who shoot up, which could lead to STD's (HIV) and you'd certainly be at risk then. Not saying this person did/does that, but its something to consider. Many addicts won't tell you what they do and they do lie about it.
I am very in love with my man. The father of my baby. 14 weeks and healthy. Happy. Just I don't like to be intimate. Making out... sex... even sometimes cuddling. I'm all of the sudden with drawn. Is it hormones? I am grumpy and exhausted. I want to be loving and intimate in other ways then sex too. Is anyone else experiencing these kinds of feelings? I just dont want to so any thing like this and when I do its rare. I love him so much and I feel awful. Ugh.
I know how u feel because I have been having this problem my baby's father felt like he would be hurting her or me so he never wants to and it definitely makes you feel unwanted and almost like your doing something wrong.
He may just be afraid of hurting the fetus. Most men don't understand our "inner anatomy". Educate him about where the baby is inside you and explain to him that he's not gonna be "bumping into" it.
It may have something to do with a past experience as well. I have a friend whose wife lost her baby two days after they had sex and he still blames himself.
Let him hit it from the back I bet u go in labor real soon that's wat wrk for me for all three of my pregnancy and am on 4
Anal can still hurt the uterus because it is again the anus area if you were to put something in ur vagina or anus youd be able to touch the other. If any of you want good advise go to www.sexinfo101.
I'm 25 weeks and in the beginning it was heightened but now I do not have much of a desire for it.. But I'm trying to keep my boyfriend from realizing as well. It hasn't been easy!
m sure fooling around will lead to sex lol. If not...
it happens again because your scared its going to happen again. your mind is not on the intimacy and enjoyment of the moment but in fear of what might happen.
loosing an erection one time is no reason for concern. the next time your going to be together psyc yourself up. tell yourself your going to be fine and that its all in your head. maybe find a situation that you know will have you very excited. likely after you overcome the fear youll find your physically fine.
, a real person with a big issue represented by your big tummy -- not unattractiveness at all but the issue of having to grow up and wake up and smell the coffee of being a daddy and an adult. Fear of the unknown can really slam us when a baby is coming, making us have escape fantasies and all kinds of other things.
Hi, I have had hsv2 for 18 years.outbreaks are regular and severe. I am only intimate with husband once or twice a year for fear of transmission. He thinks its because I don't love him even though I've explained that my biggest fear is passing it on to him. I've read up on various treatments but am confused with all sales gimmicks. Can you please advise?
We have tried intercourse but my husband doesnt know what to do and also i get quite scared of the pain that intercourse might cause. Due to this my husband doesnt even bother trying anymore. What should i do? Is there anything i could take to help me relax or help my husband with some guidance? We would like to have a child but my fear discourages him to even try anymore. Please help!
So all of a sudden he's afraid of getting it? And he hasn't been for the past 4+ years?
I'd really challenge that. What's changed? Has he developed a fear of germs? Has he suddenly lost interest in sex? Has he become interested in someone else? Have you had more outbreaks?
Will he go to couples therapy?
Have any of you mommies been experiencing sore vaginas after sex? No matter what type of sex I have (as in slow, fast, soft, rough...etc)it always end up feeling the same which is super sore. I've tried using a lot of lubricants and still the same thing.
Now I keep having headaches, I used to have chronic migraines, and white stuff keeps coming out on my underwear, and my back is hurting. But my period was at the beginning of the month from the first to the fifth. Ever since he texted that I've been terrified that I'm pregnant. Could I be?
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