s hard to understand, but the reality is that addiction is a living hell, and an addict when they have any clean time at all , will not thank an
enabler, but rather, affix blame to an
enabler that has made it easier for them to use for years (forgiving her for cheating and lying made it easier for her to cheat and lie). A woman might misconstrue that if you accepted and forgave her for cheating might mean you don't love her enough to care.