divorce support meetings

My hubby and I met while I was in a 3 year battle to get my divorce finalized, I have 2 daughters with my ex husband...support hearings, custody hearing, numerous meetings with my lawyer...pure craziness...I got pregnant with my now 14 month old during this and my now hubby was stressed but supportive through it all. Just support each other and it will work out...as for having 2 at once...seems overwhelming but it will all fall into place.

welcome...And first off congrats on 30 days, you should be very proud...Although cocaine is not my doc, pain pills are, i don't think there is much difference in just being an addict....We are all here for the same reason, and i have been clean for 5 months thanks to this forum,,, it really has saved my life...Like you i don't get anything out of meetings, but i do see a counsouler and i can't tell you how much that helps me stay clean....

It sounds like you are very alone with this in the center of a circle of friends who use. This is doomed without support. Start with meetings. At least you know that everyone there can identify with your goal and won't work against it.

I need to share my story and hopefully get some suggestions and support and wisdom out there. I recently turned 50. I my early 40's I suffered a series of losses in a short period of time - lost my dad, my mom, best friend from college, my sister had three brain tumors (3 separate operations and survived) my father in law, miscarriage, financial, etc. I never grieved all these losses, just pushed it inside so I could function. I wound up drinking to get thru the pain and became alcoholic.

Does it mean that someone is heading for re-lapse if they refuse to go to meetings? He says "I don't relate to them", "All they talk about is how bad their life is", "I can do this by myself", "I stopped taking drugs because I want to, I don't need to talk about it" If anyone has read my posts before, you know my husband is an addict and has been clean from his DOC for 18 days and 8 days off suboxone.

Bro, I know it's hard my life is really hard. my family dosent support or aint close anymore. I'm sorry to hear that but trust me after kicking this evil habbit we'll be happy...and see life diffrent...let's make a change...i relapsed several times and 1 day I just talk to myself like wow i aint going to get anywhere doing this plus seeing my cousin almost done with college. WHICH im in school....but not as far as him...Just gotta keep pushing/moving foward...

I have been able to stay clean for almost 20 months but never could have done it without the support. When I was sick in the beginning or working crazy hours I did meetings online. It doesn't replace face to face meetings but it sure helped! I made many good friends on them also. So maybe check it out if you can't get out of the house yet! I know that 12 step doesn't work for everyone but it has been the only thing that worked for me! But try to find some kind of support....

Personally I have only been to AA meetings, but I'm assuming that they're almost identical. My sister did the 12 step program and went to AA. Part of that 12 steps is admitting that there is something higher than you. Not necessarily a god, definitely not specifically a Christian god, but a being that shows that you are just part of this world and not in control of this. This is to help humble you as well as help you see that you have choices. You can choose sobriety.

Go to a meeting and see for yourself, they are people just like you and me who have one common goal - to stay clean and help others do the same. You will be amazed at the support you will get. I just posted about this to you in your other thread. Not only will you get some much needed adult interaction but you'll get so much support and learn the tools to stay clean. I'm in the midst of detox and am hitting a meeting tonight because already the mindscrew is bothering me.

I went to several NA meetings laoded. It was part of what got me to make the decision to stop using. My understanding is the only requirement is the desire to stop using. Don't bring any drugs or paraphenalia. take care and stick to your taper.

Him and my mom have been off and on for years. This time though. When my mom was ready to divorce him, I think some kind of lightbulb came on for him. A little histroy: My dad has been going to aa meetings here and there, but it never helped, maybe cause he wasnt "ready" to stop. I honestly think that he is ready to quit drinking. He has joined some local groups and goes to aa meetings at least twice a week.

Although I did not attend N/A that long, it is a great support group and they know how to reach out to the newcomer. I got so many hugs my first meeting and left with a key chain woo hoo, lol. Give it a shot, if you don't like it, then you don't have to go back. I was very nervous my first meeting, but the second I walked in, they made me feel comfortable. I think you should go, what do you have to lose? Keep posting too, this is a great support group.

Find your inner strength and come out fighting!! It is very hard and you will want to give up, but find your support and hang on tight to them. Surrond yourself with people that will cheer you on and not bring you more stress!! Like said above, Copaxone should be able to finacially help. God Bless and take care!!

Ive looked in the pho ne book and online and not really having much luck finding any NA meetings in my area. does anyone have a website or any resource that has a listing ? That would be awesome and sooooo appreciate thank you!

Try to get a sponsor within the first couple meetings as they will be a great source of support for you. Meetings and my sponsor is what keeps me on track. There is no way I could do this on my own. Recovery is not a matter of willpower. It's a matter of learning to care again. Genuinely caring about ourselves and allowing others to come close to us is a process that starts when we surround ourselves with people who understand us. Keep us posted on how you are doing. Take care!

when you have this child even during a separation your ex will have to pay not only child support but spousal support from the sounds of it to insure you are able total care of this baby. id seek legal advice to confirm all this but i think as much as getting the hell out of there seems appealing it could back fire on once divorce proceedings start. and im assuming you have your dr. or midwife where you live now. i wouldn't interrupt your prenatal care now.

Hi, I've been a regular in the past on the addiction forum for vicodin. I relapsed with that, now in the spaces between refills I've been drinking a lot. Of course, now I mix the two when I have access to vicodin. My dad, who died a few years ago, was an alcoholic and a counselor in AA, would be my biggest asset, but he's gone. I realize this is a genetic predisposition, but I'm having a helluva time stopping.

I am so happy to say that I started aftercare to really work my recovery and its very satisfying!! I decided to try different meetings from the one that I had attended before because I am lucky enough to live somewhere that has lots of them and I had a great experience. I met a wonderful woman who I instantly clicked with who I think will end up becoming my sponsor.

I sure hope I have e alot more clean time behind me and more knowledge about the tools we use in our recovery..The meetings are a great place to go and get the support that we so need when the Triggers of life happen..Even if I am in 7 months I still am a Babe in the Woods...You just hang tight and fight the fight..That just breaks my heart..God will turn it around for you...

I dont have any answers here but I definately offer my support and encouragement for anyone struggling with withdrawals (yes they DO end) and early recovery. The support I got here was amazing!!! I thought I would be in less pain, but miserable and obsessed with pills. But, by reaching out to other addicts, getting honest(still trying there), and just talking about these things I find I have hope, a positive attitude, and (one day at a time) Im living life!!!

s been spending increasing time with a bipolar support group. At first, I observed that she almost returned from their weekly meetings having drunk a couple of glasses of wine. Now, as our marital problems have deepened, the weekly meetings have been supplemented by Saturday parties and other outings, and when she comes home from these, I can tell she's been drinking.

During an argument with my husband he said he will move out of state and not be in my child's life. I'm 30 weeks pregnant. I have recently calmly asked him if he meant it and he said yes. He does not want drama and thinks that I will turn our child against him. That is a complete lie I have never once said anything degrading humiliating or hurtful about my husband to anyone no matter how angry I was or hurt.

Forgot to add that when he is on them he acts like how he used to, loving husband like. I always thought if you were an addict you would be more withdrawn, but that's how he is without the. And that's how I can tell when he's on something.

In divorce papers they will set up child support, visitation, medical support for baby etc. but do yourself a favor and when they set child support immediately go to your child support office and have all checks go through state that way he and you is protected.

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