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I think a therapist would be a wonderful idea for you. Someone neutral that you can really explore why this relationship holds you in bondage. Is that something you'd consider?? Sometimes when we are in an unhealthy relationship, we've developed unhealthy thought patterns that we have to undo. So, the help of a therapist could be a great thing for you.
That's what happens when u put ur private info on these forums. Anyone has access to these forums. Don't forget they're public!
Yes, you have to work out the legalities of visitation and custody in court with child support. Truth is, seems like a lot of men don't have an interest in being around their kid that much so it may not be an issue--- but if he's one that does and this will bother you (it would kill me to be away from my kids)--- then that is something to think about. I think, though, that every man has a moral responsibility to contribute to the support of their child.
even before other family members. You have a lot on your plate and I commend you for getting help for your alcoholism. That is a tremendous feat. You have moved on through so much and you will do this too. I feel, however, you cannot do it alone. You definitely need to seek out a therapist (Psychiatrist or Psychologist preferrably) to discuss your situation so you can "vent" out all that you have been through and feel what you need to feel.
If you did pursue a divorce, you will most likely stll get the benefit of depending on his salary in the form of alimony (support for you) and child support (for the kids). They are two separate financial obligations that he is legally bound to make.
I am not one to recommend divorce, so that's not the route I'm suggesting you take. I just wanted to point out that if your circumstances led to divorce, you have the potential, with the right divorce lawyer, to still depend on his salary.
thanks for your support. I can't believe the attacks coming my way from my ex. today is a tough one the freaking headache is killing me and just the overall anxiousness but I don't want to leave the house. My ex is coming to get my daughter for his evening w/ her and I'm going to force myself to get out for a walk.
I did a blood test to check for antibodies for HSV 1 and 2. She also took a culture and sent it out -- that hasn't come back yet, but she told me after she got the blood test results yesterday that in fact it was a Herpes lesion. I talked to my husband today and we are both confused, scared, feeling pretty ignorant. He wants to move on and not dwell on it, while i think it's important to understand what's going on.
Sam, you make some great points. Yes, it's true that women file for divorce more than men. I think it's b/c men and women have different expectations of marriage. Also, men will take longer to file for divorce so women have to do it. It's not that the men don't want the divorce, some men just don't want to be bothered with the process of a divorce. Maybe men see it as a big failure while women just want to move on with their life?
Soo..I had this happen. Basically I couldn't stand my now exhusband while I was pregnant..but it was because of a huge number of things that were going on. What he said, what he did, how he acted, etc. I waited until we had our second child and still kept trying to make it work even though I couldn't stand him more times than not. It got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore and it was obvious that it was unhealthy so I left him.
It's never easy but can be done. If Ur in an abussive relationship get out ASAP!! 1st for Ur safety, 2- for Ur babies safety. It is unfair & unhealthy for U & Ur child. Ur husband/boyfriend cannot take Ur child away fr U (whether U work or not). U have to be an unfit mother by being very neglectful or by using drugs. U don't necessarily need an atty, call the court they can help (there usually is a court clinic that works w people).
I would like to find out for those of you men out there if you have gone through this and why? The reason I am asking is 3 weeks ago my husband came home and told me he didn't love me anymore. He said I love you as a person, and respect you. This is after being with him for 31 years and doing everything for him. Taking care of him while he was sick, when he lost his job, standing by him.
Hi..thank you for your kind words!and yes he's paying child support which is good,I don't have A problem with that..what I don't understand is about alinmony it's like he doesn't have extra money for that .he already have a lot if Credit card billes that when they were together he's paying that off.it's like a lot of bills how about my future? That's why it's hard for me ..and will never able to have a house or anything !!!
They may even be valid excuses for a divorce, like abuse or infidelity, but the thing is...people *usually* go into a marriage knowing the others' downfalls but they think it'll never happen to them anyway.
Please note: Usually. Not always.
As a Christian, and also from experience of my own downfalls in a past relationship that unfortunately involves my innocent son who deserves none of what that relationship came to, I have realized what real Christian Marriage is all about.
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