My therapist thinks she figured it out very young, to align herself
with my
mother, and therefore, she got more
of what she needed in life. She has been married for 20 years now, no kids (thank goodness!), with a pretty good life, where mine has been nothing but struggle and disappointment!
I'm in my 40s now, and my mother just died, my dad died years ago, and after he died things got worse, as my mother didn't do much for us at all, in terms of anything.