dealing with death of a child

I know it was really hard for me to take in, as it is hard for u to loose any child believe me when i say god had a bigger need for ur child. He wants u to have a healthy beautiful child and that this loss was not the right child for u. Hold ur head up high and keep trying... the chances of another problem the next time is slimm to none! I was told to abort my child before she passed away. I couldnt end her life and i know she went the way she did to help me from making that choice.

for the baby and how much will effect him. I usually a very emotional person when dealing with death and I feel like a horrible person for not allowing myself to feel bad. What do I do???

I lost my grandfather a few months ago at the beginning not my pregnancy. .with a good support system it was easier. I truly believed he was in a better place. Somehow carrying a child made it alot easier to deal with.

You might want to check out the bereavement groups in your area, there are people going through the loss of a child just like you - being with kindred spirits will sure help you. I would also suggest you see your family doctor, so that s/he can assess if you need follow through with a specialist. I'm sorry for your loss, but you can feel better then you have been.

Overcoming grief depression over a loss of a child, family member is a difficult process. Whether the departure of a loved one is sudden, or has been anticipated over a period of time, we experience a powerful and complex range of emotions of grief – including disbelief, shock, anger, hatred, guilt, loss of faith, fear of the future, loneliness, regret.

i don't know how you deal with losing a child. I'm not so sure that i can ever get through this, how do you do it? I mean get up every day and not feel guilty for living without them. I feel so guilty every day for getting out of bed and her not being here. I need some advice please.

If she is having nightmares that make her think she may die then you need to address what has happened to make her have these. But this obcession over dying in a child will show up after the death of a family member, friend, relative, pet, etc, but at four, a child has difficulty comprehending death in any aspect. Because you were never treated for your anxiety and fear it may be in some way your daughter has picked up on this.

Just like falling in love takes time so does dealing with a passing of a loved one.Just opposite ways of feeling.Love and loss,two parts of life that both hurt.For loving anyone or anything,such as a pet can lead to pain.All feelings lead to pain and despair,eventually.So do we stop feeling,stop loving,stop caring,no we just learn to adjust to our new lives without that loved one that pet,that friend.whom ever.Death ends a life,not a relationship.

My boyfriend of 10 years, whom I have a child with, has an addiction to prescription pills.. Its getting harder & harder for me to just sit back & smile to friends, family, & co-workers.. I have an alcoholic mother whom I have had to basically take care of my whole life & this is the last situation I thought I'd be in!!! My life is a roller coaster every day, every week.. I never know what I will come home to...

I agree with Rachyou, I'm HOPING for a girl, just so we have one of each, but if it's not, that's just one more excuse to have another! And if that's not a girl, another! ;) Just kidding!! I would just be grateful you're having a healthy pregnancy, and a healthy baby, and are pregnant.

I lost a a brother, a son and a gandson and we NEVER get over this type of loss. We learn to move on, to cope, we manage. It does get easier, I don't know how or why, just that it does. Often you will think of your brother and smile, other times you will cry. Your brother would want you to be happy, and you must carry on his memory thru you! But there are no words of comfort right now, just that you try to keep moving forward with your life.

do you trust him to be a father and fulfill his paternal responsibilities consistently, whether you are together or not, or does he seem the kind of guy who will bail out and/or make your life a chaotic mess if you attempt to raise a child with him? Been there, done it. My first son was born out of wedlock, and I did not list his father on the birth certificate and I gave him my last name. His father took the measures to establish his paternity.

Thanks for all your kind words ladies means a lot we had a liitle ceremony for her on her due date and we have a little leaf on the tree of tranquility its beautiful I know she will forever be in my heart and by my side I love and miss her with every breath I take but I know she's at peice now I will always have a angel watching over me that's why I named her angel :)

I too lost my Son. All our lives we hear that "time heals all wounds" and I do agree on all OTHER aspects - but NOT the loss of my Son. It's been 4 years and 7 months since my Son died and it doesn't get easier, fact is - it gets harder. I've come to realize that the "loss" of a Child does not "fade" with time, the loss GROWS with time. Each year I cannot fathom that it's been another year that He's gone.

She had to grow up very quickly and has resented my presence (even as a nanny-which I was first and after their mum died). She acts as if she’s competing with me for a woman of the house role. It’s so complex because I feel so hurt and betrayed by years of rejection by her. I know she’s suffering but for years I offered myself, selflessly, trying to help her and it seems she puts me down at every opportunity.

the funeral is this week and i dont know how she is going to be,im worried because she isnt more upset or is this just her way of dealing with this. we do speak to her about it and speak about her friend but she seems to show no emotion at all.

As mentioned above, it is very hard dealing with the suffering of the animals. I always felt I had a good perspective on the whole issue, but this recent death made me realize I was perhaps somewhat out of focus. I think I've just had to personally put down and seen put down just one cat to many. It's something I've never cared for and with changes to funding and services I'm beginning to feel more like an executioner than a help.

I have already been the beneficiary of some great advice from Vance and Teak. A question for the group... How do you deal with all the differing views on risk behavior? For example, this forum has a pretty firm stance about the low/no risk nature of oral sex for hiv transmission. Yet even my own cities Met Health Clinic (SA, TX) councils that getting a blow job is high risk due to potential lesions, etc.

What we call “mono” is actually a set of symptoms caused by herpes family viruses like these, and others. Usually you get CMV as a child with minimal symptoms, and then EBV when older, which gives you “mono” which is possibly (according to what I’ve read) actually EBV deactivating CMV and causing the symptoms. Either illness is more mild as a child, and has increasing complications with age if acquired later.

I have always treated my kids like either adults or like a person not just a child. its helped with having good communication with them. include your child in the baby activities. my daughter came with me to every dr appt I had with my 2nd. my son now goes with me to every appt. my daughter has school. so she never really felt left out.

I was In a relationship with someone but things are now coming to a end and its hard when your pregnant and all alone.he treats me really bad.I'm very stressed and trying to deal with things the best that I can.it's just sad to be carrying someone's child and they treat you really bad..

Exactly a week after laying my mom to rest I found out that I was 8 weeks pregnant with my 6th child. It hurt a lot bc my mom was there for all of my other pregnancies. I was so upset and sad, and being pregnant was the last thing that I would've wanted. I'm now 26 weeks I've moved on a little and am starting to get happy about the birth of my 3rd daughter.

While I am dealing with this, I am taking care of my father who is basically on a path to self destruction with his continued drinking. He died on August 14th of last year and it seems I have been blocking all of this out untill now. I was wondering what some of you, who have dealt with this would reccomend I do.

How do you ladies deal with stress? There's a chance I'm going to lose my contract with my salon because I just told them I'm pregnant and.my boss is having me come in for a meeting next week to 'talk'. Well, that's not all and yes this is a bit of a rant, but the father of my child has been ignoring me. Since I told him I am in fact pregnant the only things he has said to me is he can't trust me and he demands a blood test.

Dealing with death of a child

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