dealing with death and guilt

thats right girlfriend get up, brush off and hold your head up and statr againjust like jen said it was only 1 day and you took hold and the responsibility of your actions atleast you got it back under control! i know how you feel i relasped so many times it wasnt even funny banymore! at lease 15 times in the 4 yrs i was using i just had to take time off from work, and ct on may 19 and that ended a 4 yr. snorting percs habit i was using anywhere from 100-200mg everyday 365 days a yr.

When she passed that early morning, her family was with her and it was special. She was very relaxed and her face showed no pain and she seemed very at peace taking her last breath. For me, I am struggling very much dealing with the loss. Yes, I love her very much and I was happy that she finally doesn't have to suffer anymore. She was really in pain the past few months of her life and it broke her kids' hearts to see that. Here is the reason why I'm struggling.

Hi, I am having a very difficult time dealing with family without having modd swings. I am trying to go to meetings, but my schedule and family situations are keeping me from doing so. Funny, I could have gone to bars and just neglected family in the past, but now, I am dealing with family situations and trying to be present. However, my children and my husband are DRIVING ME CRAZY. I keep serenity prayering and it helps for a little bit.

t know if your family is Christian, but if yes, talk with your pastor and possibly have him come and speak with her. He will uplift her sorrowful spirit and give her hope for the future. Give your parents time. The loss of their child (regardless of age) is very traumatic, because a parent shouldn't have to bury their child. They will talk when they are ready and that's ok too.

t know enough about PTSD as it relates to death to comment on that, and i am bipo but i am not familiar with the psychotic aspect. it certainly seems that all of these factors could come into play regarding your situation, but again I do not feel qualified to say. I have done a good deal of meth and I experienced a tremendous amount of hallucinations on it. the hallucinations were vivid and ranged from shifting fabric in carpeting to people. it was terrifying and disturbing.

for the baby and how much will effect him. I usually a very emotional person when dealing with death and I feel like a horrible person for not allowing myself to feel bad. What do I do???

One of my regrets was the night before she passed, I made the decision for hospice in home care without her acknowledgment because she was in and out of sleep. that night I also left early to go and give my husband a break with the kids. The next morning she passed away at 6 am. I tried hard explaining that the doctors didnt want to do any more chemo and she said no I want to live. I play those words in mind every minuet of the day and it hurts badly. Its just part of life.

There is a woman down the street that feeds a group of strays- canned and dry and has little heated houses for them during the winter. There is one cat that has always tried to come down to our house and eat. We've chased him away and my cats have been really snarky with it and guarding the house. There has been several fights. It's been probably a year that we have been doing this. Sometimes it's weeks between seeing him but the last two weeks it has been almost daily.

This excessive worry stems from what happened to your brother, and therapy will help you to overcome this worry, and cope with your loss. I do wish you all the best, and take care.

I believe though, that your dad knows how much you love him. I also believe that God and angels where there with him and he was not alone when he passed. I'm so sorry for your loss and I'll keep you in my prayers.

I have a friend who lost his wife a few months ago to cancer and is having a very hard time dealing with it. Yesterday I received another email from him (I live 300 miles away) and following is an excerpt of that email; " I"m not doing very well with this situation here. I don't know how people survive the sadness, loneliness, pain & guilt. My daughter said, why do you feel guilty, dad? I told her it's because she's dead,and I'm not.

I can only work by cleaning and babysitting other kids.. And i make money and have saved alot... I just cant stand the thought of me not having my son..

t want to go on a medication for the rest of my life and I need to find some way to move past the guilt of what I did. Anyone have any experience with something like this and have any thoughts?

I took my grandfather to a blood lab for testing and the lady who saw him didn't wash her hands and I allowed her to see my grandfather. I have no good reason. It wasn't because I was too scared to speak up or something like that. It was intentional. Now, I truly regret that decision and am facing the horrible guilt of it. I don't know if I may have infected him with a virus or something.

Hi, All. I am new to this forum and finding it very helpful and informative. I have already been the beneficiary of some great advice from Vance and Teak. A question for the group... How do you deal with all the differing views on risk behavior? For example, this forum has a pretty firm stance about the low/no risk nature of oral sex for hiv transmission. Yet even my own cities Met Health Clinic (SA, TX) councils that getting a blow job is high risk due to potential lesions, etc.

This would mean several surgeries (and 6-12 weeks of healing time), a feeding tube, pain killers and lots of bloodwork and check ups and that the $2 000.00 wouldn't even begin to cover it. I don't know much of her medical history as I inherited her from an ex boyfriend who told me when I left if I didn't take her he would bring her to a pound to be put down. So, without hesitation, I took her.

Just like falling in love takes time so does dealing with a passing of a loved one.Just opposite ways of feeling.Love and loss,two parts of life that both hurt.For loving anyone or anything,such as a pet can lead to pain.All feelings lead to pain and despair,eventually.So do we stop feeling,stop loving,stop caring,no we just learn to adjust to our new lives without that loved one that pet,that friend.whom ever.Death ends a life,not a relationship.

I spent 6 weeks in rehab and missed last Christmas with my family. I sat through lectures, had group and one on one therapy, met other addicts who I could relate to. So what the hell?!? I should be cured right? The fact that my addiction will be a lifelong struggle has really got me down lately. I don't drink alcohol, well maybe a few glasses of wine a year, but as an addict I should avoid all mood altering substances.

You don't list the details, though I'm guessing you posted on one of the HIV forums and were told there was no risk, your doc told you there was no risk, but again, you don't say here what it is you did but since you now know whatever it was had no risk and you're still obsessing over it, you probably have a common phobia about getting HIV.

And, since the anxiety could also be caused by much more then the event you mentioned, I would recommend finding a doctor (probably a psychologist) and getting help for your anxiety. That doctor could also help you with dealing with the event you mentioned. If it turns out that the single event is what is causing you your anxiety...I think it can be handled fairly quickly. However, I would be somewhat surprised if this one brief event is the only cause.

My 81 year old father recently passed away from chronic kidney disease and chronic heart failure with each worsening the other. We were with him the day before and at the time of his death. I observed grimaces and actions I don't understand. There is VERY little info on the web about the actual dying phase. The day before he died he suddenly developed this upside down smile type grimace tha was so disturbing I can't get it out of my mind.

I know my dad was self destructive and died at a very young age and I was very angry with him for a while for leaving my mom in dire striaghts and for not taking better care of himslef so he could be with us longer. I went to alot of therapy to work through this and I am ok and I miss my dad alot.

I have to just know that loss is part of life. It hurts. I was in shock and pain and dealing with my children who watched me try to give her cpr and to have that loss on top of losing their grandfather . . . it was a bad scene. It's a little over a year later. We have another dog now. We love her. I know our dog that we lost was a lucky lucky dog. She was the most loved puppy! And your dog, as said above, was a most loved puppy too.

1) How can I deal with the overwhelming and piercing guilt for not going to the wedding? 2) How do I deal with a mom who rarely contacts me and is very distant. She hasnt' really been there. She didn't even show up at my graduations. 3) How do I stop worrying about the two of them and their continuously impulsive decisions.

im 19 wks pregnant and i have a fetus with a diagnosis of CPC im scared to death because i have to wait 3 wks to go to a specialist...anyone have any hopes or ideas??

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