dealing with death and dying

Life is always changing and one thing ive learned is that there are no absolutes. We have this concept about dying and see and hear about death every day. These are events that are happening to others and just because you see others experiencing death does not absolutly mean it will happen to you. We are in world that we share with all living things and witness their events but you are your own person and have your own destiny. Dont think the lives of others necessarily will be your future.

For some reason i have this odd fear of having a heart attack and dying. Not even sure why i am, Ive had my heart checked very recently and everything was fine. Its pretty much constantly on my mind.

My mother(age 47) has drasticly gone down hill in the past 4yrs. It seemed to all happen at once and in the past year things have gotten worse. Heart disease runs strong in my family,not many have lived past 50yrs old.My mom has hypertension,high blood pressure, chronic lung disease, and heart disease to name a few. This past July she had to have emergeny double bypass surgery and had a minor heartatacke about a month after the surgery.

I have the thought in my head that I am going to die and it controls my life. I have got in my head that I see dark shadows and I associate these with death, it controls my everyday life. For example if I go into a shop to buy an item of clothing and If feel I see one of these dark shadows at this time I will not buy that item of clothing as I associate that clothing with bad thoughts and think to myself I am going to die if I buy it.

the littlest cramp i would get would trigger this thought in my mind that it was something that was going on that would shortly lead to my death. and to be completely honest with you, i still feel that way almost every single hour of the day. so, you're not alone in this. what sort of thing[s] scare you?

The fact is, we are all going to die someday and how we come to terms with that fact and deal with it is totally individual. If this phobia becomes disruptive to the quality of your life, I would advise you to seek out the guidance of your religious leader or a qualified therapist.

for the baby and how much will effect him. I usually a very emotional person when dealing with death and I feel like a horrible person for not allowing myself to feel bad. What do I do???

Same. This site has actually helped me immensely. The more you read about others Experiences the more I'll realize ur not alone. I have All those symptoms and more. Hit me up if u want to kno anything else.

t know why I have these feeling now I never used to have them and I used to not fear death until a couple months ago. So anyway when I have these thoughts I become overwelmed with fear and a panic attack comes on wich makes me feel like I am going to die then it becomes even worse. The only thing I know to tell you is to breathe and tell youself it will pass. Don't act on your thoughts the mind is a powerful thing but you have control over it do your best to get through it.

Hello, I am 24 years old, been through alot and I am still dealing with my anxiety I do have ptsd also. But not only am I dealing with the anxiety and the attacks which happen alot, I also have emetophobia (fear of vomiting) it controls my life, If I feel as if I am going to be sick I go into an anxiety fit, and dealing with them both at once gets hard on me. I have talked to counsilors and doctors, yet I still suffer from this.

s necessary...However, by what you describe, and with an owner that clearly did not know what he/she was doing, your puppy has to see a Vet. If it is infected, it won't take long for the infection to go systematic. Thus, treatment is more aggressive and expensive. Your puppy being weak is a sign that he's SICK. Puppy's are fragile and you must seek medical attention for this before it gets worse. I'm hoping that someone else here can provide you info.

This excessive worry stems from what happened to your brother, and therapy will help you to overcome this worry, and cope with your loss. I do wish you all the best, and take care.

Both my mother and father are alcoholics and my sister, brother and I have been through a very tough time with them over the last 15 years or so (I posted the story in the grief & loss section after an internet search but I'm glad to find your story here). So I can really identify with your story - it's so hard watching someone waste away.

seems to be dying a slow death. I dont have the money to take him to another vet. Can someone PLEASE tell me what to do. Is there anything I can do at home.

My grandma died on Thursday && I've spent the whole day at the funeral home just to come home to a message that my other grandma who I live with && take care of is actively dying . Dealing with one death is hard enough but 2 . . Idk how I'll handle all of this && it not effect my baby . So much stress && depression .

I sometimes worry about death and dying a little too much. I can picture my self dying and can sometimes almost know how it feels to die. Then i throw myself into a panic attack. I always tell my loved ones i Love them . I do it too much cause i think they or myself might die soon. These thought s surfaced when my cousin died in 2006. When i seen his body at the funeral, thoughts of how he died flew cross my mind. Thoughts of did he suffer, did he know he was dying, was he scared, etc.....

I'm used to have the same fears. I was absolutely convinced that I was going to die. And even mentioning the fact that I was afraid I was going to die would probably mean that something would happen to me. It all came to a hault when I landed in the hospital with an actual near death experience. I figured if you're not dead yet- you have a reason to be alive! I've been dealing with anxiety for a while and I know how it feels to be fixated on one thought- like death.

I am sorry for both of your loses, maybe in away thats why people die. To make us appreciate the little things in life & each other.

Mine pertains to my health anxiety and a specific fear of dying alone and the process of actually dying, rather than what the afterlife does or does not hold. If you would like to talk about it feel free to stay in contact with me.

i went through the same thing as you and although it is difficult to deal with and still am, but i reassure you as long as your heathy, nothing will happen, its just your mind playing tricks, if you need anything feell free to message me

My parents were unable to deal with me and my issues with death; and though I understand that there was no bad intent on their behalf, I am and will be exactly the opposite for my daughter, and engage her on any and every front that might help her with this. As I wrote, she is a happy and healthy kid in every respect, I just want to help keep this demon at bay long enough for her to gain enough of her own faculties, in order to manage her fears like the rest of us.

The only thing that I try to put in my mind is that for every second I spent worrying about dying I have wasted living. I am beginning to think that with death its the loved ones that feel the most pain and impact. As scary as it is, try and focus on now. Live for each day.

Neither really affected my life or interfered, until about 2 years ago I started getting other neurological symptoms where my legs and arms felt numb and my legs were weak. Then I started to get severe fatigue and memory loss with blurry vision and a stiff neck that was so painful I could barely keep. it up. rashes on my chest and seeing spots in vision. I also began developing a slight mild dementia getting lost in familiar places and not recognizing people easily.

Hi, I am having a very difficult time dealing with family without having modd swings. I am trying to go to meetings, but my schedule and family situations are keeping me from doing so. Funny, I could have gone to bars and just neglected family in the past, but now, I am dealing with family situations and trying to be present. However, my children and my husband are DRIVING ME CRAZY. I keep serenity prayering and it helps for a little bit.

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Just like falling in love takes time so does dealing with a passing of a loved one.Just opposite ways of feeling.Love and loss,two parts of life that both hurt.For loving anyone or anything,such as a pet can lead to pain.All feelings lead to pain and despair,eventually.So do we stop feeling,stop loving,stop caring,no we just learn to adjust to our new lives without that loved one that pet,that friend.whom ever.Death ends a life,not a relationship.

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