t spread by hands, even if she somehow managed to get virus
on her
hands while using
the bathroom, which is unlikely. It also doesn't go through clothing, like your shirt or leggings, or her jeans.
The only way to transmit herpes is through direct skin to skin contact, like mouth to genitals (if someone has oral herpes - think cold sores), or genital to genital or genital to anal contact (rubbing, grinding or penetration, all while unclothed).