Go to a meeting, we go to have
coffee in a
group every friday, after the meeting. AA or NA is good, try them both, you will find your circle. The thing is, do something, get out there and meet real people, who you know what they look like and how they express themselves with their eyes. I think you will be amazed at who you hook up with. It's important to have local people, though MH is a great place too, but we need all the support we can get.