but to do that you have to realize they are not going to
kill you and are no way life threatening. If
you can manage that, you take away their teeth and they quit being the life controlling monster that they were.
I could have written your post myself some years ago. I let panic and OCD just about take over my life. Do not do that, get help now. A good therapist can help you so much. And you really could benefit by taking some meds for your anxiety. I am scared to death of new meds.