Really the first thing you must, absolutely must realize is that it has NOTHING...ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. It really doesn't. Yes, you were raised (just like a lot of women
were, including myself) to view physical affection as a sign of worth, but that just isn't true...he doesn't have to have sex with you to prove he loves you, does he? Would you want him to make a similar demand of you when you were worried about other things that seemed important to your life?